Why is DU in a gender war anyway?

[BainsBane]

90. So why is it that you don't take the threads about congress or bankers as a personal attack?

But decide you somehow see yourself attacked in threads on violence against women? Bankers and most of congress are male. If someone posts about murder or robbery, do you decide that is an attack against you personally? Yet you decide when I post about rape or domestic violence I'm talking to you, when you have been a member of this site for only a couple of hours. It seems to me that those men who see threads about violence against women--as opposed to any other crime or subject--as directed at them personally have issues. Most men do not view the threads that way. They know they aren't sexual predators, and they understand that rape and other violence against women is prevalent and therefore affects the lives of a large portion of women on this site. They also aren't so self absorbed they insist on telling people to shut up when they post about a thread that doesn't directly affect them. Additionally, there is no evidence of any correlation between voting behavior and tendency to rape or beat a partner. In simple demographic terms, your assumption that those people are absent from this site is absurd. The idea that you would suggest that is strange, to say the least.

The "focus is on the women" because of the misogyny and victim blaming that is endemic to rape culture. Clearly you aren't the choir if you insist that the only discussion of rape focus on the responsibility of victims rather than predators.

Most importantly, if you can't handle hearing women speak in public about concerns to us, that's your problem. It takes a lot of fucking nerve to sign up as a new poster and tell me what I don't have a right to post about. If you want a male only perspective, go elsewhere. The fact is 1 in 3 American women are raped or beaten by a partner or family member. Our human rights matter, and that you don't want to hear about them is your failing entirely. It also makes clear you are no ally of mine. So no, I don't wish to preach to you or speak to you at all, on this or any other subject. I don't dismiss what you say because you are male. The world is filled with socially conscious men who wouldn't dream of taking the position you have here. I dismiss what you say because you make clear my basic rights are so inconsequential that discussion of them should be silenced. So by all means, ignore what I write. You clearly find it too threatening to cope with. I will happily return the favor.