Why is DU in a gender war anyway?

[Gormy Cuss]

152. Want to stop the gender war? Try listening rather than responding defensively.

Try engaging on topic rather than distracting to a different issue. For example, if the topic is shifting the focus of rape education on college campuses from one where all emphasis is on women protecting themselves to a focus on men not raping, it's not a good time to pipe in and state the obvious, that men are also the victims of rape or that most men don't rape. It's time to talk about whether shifting the focus to men is an effective strategy for reducing rapes on campus.

Also, don't fall into the trap of false equivalence. Men and women are both victims of domestic violence. That doesn't mean that both genders suffer equally. That also doesn't mean that both are equal aggressors. MRA sites love to find some top level statistic that makes it seem as if they are and I've seen such stats repeated here. In fact, I've seen a lot of cherry-picked statistics repeated here from MRA sites so while there may not be anyone here who self-identifies as MRA there ARE DUers who buy into their arguments.

Finally, about those staunch feminists. If the feminists here were preaching to the choir there would be no "gender war." No need.

Happy New Year.