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191. Neither of those terms are an attack on men.

Wed Jan 1, 2014, 11:36 PM

Jan 2014

Is "white privilege" an attack on all white people? There seems to be the misconception that pointing out privilege means:
- You should feel shame for the rest of your life
- There's nothing you can do and we hate you because you have privilege
- It's "us vs. men, white people, whatever"
- We think you're a bad person because you were born with privilege
- We want you to do impossible things to not be privileged, or otherwise you're a bad person

Nobody ever says any of those things. We just want you to acknowledge that the privilege exists and that the power structure is still lop-sided towards men (or white people, etc.).

How is "rape culture" an attack on men? Nobody said all men are rapists. I'm not sure why "rape culture" would be offensive. Pointing out a cultural problem doesn't mean that we're accusing everybody of being rapists. That's silly.

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Gonna have to disagree with you here... one_voice Dec 2013 #29

Aren't you referring to the "Fly Trap" thread? NoOneMan Dec 2013 #30

Let's look at that thread gollygee Dec 2013 #31

Yep, the self-admitted Fly Trap thread NoOneMan Dec 2013 #36

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"and is seen as a trap" NoOneMan Jan 2014 #119

I believe you were the first that I saw calling it a trap. The OP has nothing in it about traps. Squinch Jan 2014 #123

Huh? I am quoting the poster of that thread: "Fly trap my friend" NoOneMan Jan 2014 #128

Um, yes. That's what I said. Squinch Jan 2014 #130

Huh?? (I'm new here. To the so-called "gender war at DU" anyway) MH1 Jan 2014 #110

"1) what was it about the o.p. of that thread that suggests..." NoOneMan Jan 2014 #118

That trumad post looks to me to be a description of what the thread degenerated into, to a large Squinch Jan 2014 #124

He called his thread a Fly Trap. NoOneMan Jan 2014 #125

After it had clearly turned into one. After the flies swarmed. Squinch Jan 2014 #126

Have you ever heard the expression " like flies sufrommich Jan 2014 #138

Again, if trumad had said, "Rick Perry is a moron" Squinch Jan 2014 #143

Sorry. I think I misread your post! Squinch Jan 2014 #155

That thread was also shortly after pintobean Jan 2014 #153

Buzz, buzz, buzz... PassingFair Jan 2014 #205

At the time you posted your (THE) first response to that thread MH1 Jan 2014 #133

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"...if someone thought it was directed at the people of DU" NoOneMan Jan 2014 #49

I didn't see the part of that thread about men as rape victims BainsBane Jan 2014 #50

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Really? Point to posts where anyone said BainsBane Dec 2013 #45

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The question is why do some have such a problem with feminist points of view? BainsBane Dec 2013 #42

How quickly it's forgotten we were told to put on a burqa if we didn't want the leering, sexual boston bean Dec 2013 #44

this needs to be its own OP. and ya... more. nt seabeyond Jan 2014 #65

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Show me where I have created thread after thread attacking men? BainsBane Jan 2014 #85

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So why is it that you don't take the threads about congress or bankers as a personal attack? BainsBane Jan 2014 #90

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Hmmm JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #92

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It does deserve a huge audience. I've now sufrommich Jan 2014 #144

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Like the family, coming home for the holidays! Squinch Jan 2014 #147

well they will be back. hrmjustin Jan 2014 #148

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yes Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2014 #131

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LOL! nt. polly7 Jan 2014 #174

Because that would make it more difficult to... pintobean Jan 2014 #164

errrr ....... polly7 Jan 2014 #175

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There is a war!?!?! Glassunion Jan 2014 #113

Insecurity. Iggo Jan 2014 #114

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Boom! All done here! Squinch Jan 2014 #228

Oppressed minorities often point out inequities or institutionalized/enculturated behaviors Zorra Jan 2014 #166

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Being dismissive of half the members is always a good way to start. Egalitarian Thug Jan 2014 #168

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I can't find the DU MRA Group pintobean Jan 2014 #181

Ooh... the're much too clever for that! lumberjack_jeff Jan 2014 #229

I never looked for the subforum. In_The_Wind Jan 2014 #234

There isn't a gender war. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #182

Terms like "male privilege" and "rape culture" is what causes divisons davidn3600 Jan 2014 #185

Sorry, but privilege enjoyed by the male gender = male privilege NuclearDem Jan 2014 #186

It is what it is.. davidn3600 Jan 2014 #190

Neither of those terms are an attack on men. Dash87 Jan 2014 #191

Pretty much. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #193

Those terms mean whatever the person using them wants them to mean Major Nikon Jan 2014 #194

You do have a point about male privilege. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #195

nice post Locrian Jan 2014 #196

Illegal discrimination has to do with civil rights Major Nikon Jan 2014 #221

Yikes, I hadn't seen those statistics on prison rape. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #222

Agreed Major Nikon Jan 2014 #223

There isn't. It's just more pointless forum drama. The type nobody cares about. Dash87 Jan 2014 #189

I notice a lack of commitment to broad-based equality and populism in general from many Romulox Jan 2014 #197

No disagreement here. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #200

In fact, transwomen are also (by certain segments)... Shandris Jan 2014 #239

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It isn't accidental LadyHawkAZ Jan 2014 #224

+1 Well said. nt rrneck Jan 2014 #225

I really appreciate this response. Well put. nt Romulox Jan 2014 #227

This post and the one above it are the two most insightful things I've read here this week. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jan 2014 #230

Divide and (try to) Conquer tridim Jan 2014 #201

MUST PROTECT OBAMA Capt. Obvious Jan 2014 #208

Yes, I will defend the best president of my lifetime on this DEMOCRATIC forum. tridim Jan 2014 #213

Here's a term you're familiar with Capt. Obvious Jan 2014 #215

So you think it's funny to trash our Democratic President on Democratic Underground. tridim Jan 2014 #217

That's what this thread is all about Capt. Obvious Jan 2014 #220

Because Obama didn't have any goddamn thing to do with the subject! NuclearDem Jan 2014 #218

Not every subject here has to involve Obama. NuclearDem Jan 2014 #209

He begs to differ Capt. Obvious Jan 2014 #216

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Boredom BeyondGeography Jan 2014 #226

Divide and conquer. Skidmore Jan 2014 #233

All we need is Love...da dee da dee dum. nt BootinUp Jan 2014 #238