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43. There is one error in your knowledge of the child support orders,

Sat Jan 4, 2014, 11:58 PM

Jan 2014

at least in recent years. Years ago, it was possible to pay the child support yourself, and only the deadbeats who refused to do that had payroll deductions. But for years now, you must have it deducted from a paycheck as long as you are employed. I found this out the hard way by having a problem with one of the employees that I do checks for. He called with an attitude about my not taking support out when I had never gotten a court order, and I got an attitude back that if he paid the support like he was supposed to, he wouldn't have to have a payroll deduction. He enlightened me on this matter, and I have since found out that this is true. I think that it has to do with making it much easier on the enforcement agency to get fewer checks and better paperwork with the checks.

So it is unfair to assume that a person is not paying the support, and that is the reason he has a payroll deduction.

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Which has nothing at all to do with the point made. Want to try again? n/t Egalitarian Thug Jan 2014 #169

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Lawyers whining about getting paid? 99Forever Jan 2014 #180

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If you know what work is necessary treestar Jan 2014 #214

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Where does it say that he "overpays his child support and visits his son too much"? Sheldon Cooper Jan 2014 #3

The Lawyer said it. Gore1FL Jan 2014 #12

But that doesn't really prove anything. Sheldon Cooper Jan 2014 #13

That's fair. I never claimed otherwise. Gore1FL Jan 2014 #15

Thanks. Sheldon Cooper Jan 2014 #17

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Are you talking to me? Sheldon Cooper Jan 2014 #139

He paid very erratically, according to the article. Other than that quote, pnwmom Jan 2014 #135

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I had to bail his ass out of jail. yeoman6987 Jan 2014 #28

Definitely one of those Le Taz Hot Jan 2014 #34

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God you're telling me. ScreamingMeemie Jan 2014 #42

I'm going through the same thing... Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #95

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As a divorced dad it's my experience that child "support" systems often start with the assumption villager Jan 2014 #36

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There are always available apologists for every system's excess... villager Jan 2014 #235

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Actually, non-custodial parents of either gender. For a time my ex had custody of my child GreenEyedLefty Jan 2014 #142

But the vast majority of NCP's are men. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #147

That statistic is changing... GreenEyedLefty Jan 2014 #157

I certainly hope you're right. Right now, the system just hurts kids, Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #162

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Apparently there was a hearing of which he was not notified. Le Taz Hot Jan 2014 #212

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I at least have court rules and statutes to back me up treestar Jan 2014 #218

Whatever, dude. Le Taz Hot Jan 2014 #222

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Yes, but he gets paystubs and he knows that he has a child support obligation. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #22

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My ex was making payments into the Ohio system and had to do exactly that. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #38

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I have a friend at work that overpaid by around $6000 because of HER not reporting income! Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #51

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He did. The judge told him tough shit. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #148

My point is that it is not self-adjusting. Ms. Toad Jan 2014 #166

Yes, but if the change was not made previously because of the receiving parent's fraud, Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #174

He did. The judge told him tough shit. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #148

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Also, if he was showing up fore visits (unscheduled) when he shouldn't be that is an issue itself. boston bean Jan 2014 #123

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If you listent to the video - Ms. Toad Jan 2014 #29

In my husband's custody, visitation & support orders in two states Mariana Jan 2014 #168

Just because pipi_k Jan 2014 #21

There is one error in your knowledge of the child support orders, Curmudgeoness Jan 2014 #43

I personally don't mind the payroll deduction. It ensures I know it is paid and that there are ... Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #49

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It is interesting that the military does not garnish Curmudgeoness Jan 2014 #255

Nothing in the article, Ms. Toad Jan 2014 #24

By any chance is the child support system in Texas privatized? tartan2 Jan 2014 #30

No nt WolverineDG Jan 2014 #94

This exposes the fact that in the family court system, men are treated like garbage. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #33

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I was told by a judge, IN COURT, to my face... Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #67

Anybody want to tell me again that DU isn't infested with MRAs? LeftyMom Jan 2014 #41

Do you feel threatened by the notion of a man wanting equal rights to his children and... Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #46

I was raised by a single father. Don't make assuptions. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #52

Did he have to deal with a family court as far as for joint/shared custody? Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #56

Yes. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #59

So your mom was a deadbeat mom (lacking a better word for right now)? Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #62

Yeah. Drug problem. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #68

It can, but doesn't do it equally. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #69

And to view that notion as an infestation makes you just as bad as ... Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #47

Men who disrespect women aren't worthy of my respect. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #53

Oh no, you don't get to play that tired canard with me. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #58

Reread your post! You accused women of driving men away and exploiting them for money. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #60

BECAUSE SOME WOMEN DO THAT! AND USE THE SYSTEM TO DO IT! Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #63

"It lends itself"... meaning it can lead to or facilitate. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #64

I'm sorry, but that's just stupid. The math doesn't work. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #73

If you truly believe that, you haven't been paying attention. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #78

I work full-time and pay 25% of my NET income in child support. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #79

If she's on welfare, she's not getting a dime of your child support kdmorris Jan 2014 #140

No, I truly believe that because I can do basic math. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #82

Mine fell... hers went up and she doesn't even have to work for it. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #83

You said she's on welfare. They don't give that out to people who are living well. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #88

She barely works, she gets $500+ a month on food stamps, my money, tax money (yes EIC included), Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #97

No, she doesn't get those things. Your kids do. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #102

You need them 6 months and legally it's 6 months. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #104

Your kids are on welfare. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #107

I'm NOT on welfare Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #111

Nobody said you were. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #112

Sorry, it's late and I had to re-read. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #113

Her not doing well is her CHOICE. She knows she doesn't HAVE to work because ... Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #115

EIC: Not quite for divorced parents Ms. Toad Jan 2014 #128

By that measure he's supposed to claim them. LeftyMom Jan 2014 #129

Should have read the rest of the thread before I posted above kdmorris Jan 2014 #141

I've reported her for welfare fraud, but they don't investigate. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #145

I am not disputing that many men get treated unfairly kdmorris Jan 2014 #155

Yes, I'm bitter about the child custody. I've already admitted that. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #160

I get that you are frustrated kdmorris Jan 2014 #164

I know everybody has stories. We should all be working for a system that doesn't create these Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #175

I think we already did agree on that kdmorris Jan 2014 #177

Because she gets to claim them because the judge says she gets to claim them. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #151

Most domestic court systems heavily favor the mother. Hosnon Jan 2014 #72

Exactly. Men fighting that system in order to become an equal parent under the law shows... Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #77

When it really comes down to it. A lot of mothers (not all) really don't want the fathers around. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #80

So the experiences we have as fathers of being treated a certain way by the system... villager Jan 2014 #81

Oh noes the MRA Union Scribe Jan 2014 #120

Unbelievable 1000words Jan 2014 #127

That's just not true. newcriminal Jan 2014 #45

And you know this how? Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #54

My husband is a family court lawyer and I work with him. newcriminal Jan 2014 #57

So he's part of the system. If he doesn't see there's a bias, then he's lying. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #61

That's bullshit. newcriminal Jan 2014 #70

Not nearly as many women as men... not even close. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #71

Cite your data. AtheistCrusader Jan 2014 #87

When joint custody is not the default arrangement, the system will always favor women Major Nikon Jan 2014 #93

I don't believe that. newcriminal Jan 2014 #105

So a man that did the right thing and supported his family BEFORE the divorce, Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #106

No, I didn't. newcriminal Jan 2014 #110

So you're saying that men who worked before the divorce aren't equal parents Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #114

First, you've assumed that the father just isn't normally capable of being an equal parent Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #116

You obviously have had a bad experience with your custody battle and newcriminal Jan 2014 #117

I didn't misquote you at all. If the father worked, the mother should have the upper hand. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #118

Again I never said if the Father works the Mother should have the upper hand. newcriminal Jan 2014 #121

Both can be and often are primary care givers Major Nikon Jan 2014 #124

Here, here. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #150

Joint physical should not be the default because it does not adequately address the needs of the msanthrope Jan 2014 #183

Default does not mean all other considerations are tossed into the wind Major Nikon Jan 2014 #188

But when you change the default, you but an unreasonable burden on the primary caregiver, msanthrope Jan 2014 #189

You didn't describe why it's unreasonable Major Nikon Jan 2014 #190

First, a default that does not take into account the well-being of the child is patently msanthrope Jan 2014 #202

Custodial orders don't even happen unless the parents can't work them out on their own Major Nikon Jan 2014 #220

I think you haven't read the law you are touting. And if you have read it, you haven't msanthrope Jan 2014 #229

Do you actually think that isn't happening now? Major Nikon Jan 2014 #230

Equal parenting is not always in the best interests of the child. Sorry....but it's not. You are msanthrope Jan 2014 #234

Anecdotal evidence is shit and you either already know it or should know it Major Nikon Jan 2014 #237

I didn't give you anecdotal evidence. I gave you valid hypos which underscore the bad law you tout. msanthrope Jan 2014 #238

Which is even worse than anecdotal evidence Major Nikon Jan 2014 #239

You are the one advocating for a change in law, it is you who must provide proof that msanthrope Jan 2014 #240

How progressive of you Major Nikon Jan 2014 #245

You are using a 20-year old study to justify precisely, what? What I am not understanding msanthrope Jan 2014 #247

Ad hominem, really? Major Nikon Jan 2014 #248

I'm not disagreeing with you that shared parenting is a good thing when it is in the best interests msanthrope Jan 2014 #249

For most (if not all) jurisdictions, shared custody is not the default Major Nikon Jan 2014 #251

+1 GreenEyedLefty Jan 2014 #159

That is a false equivalence. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #163

Please explain what you mean GreenEyedLefty Jan 2014 #167

It's true, the laws are written to be equal, but those same laws don't Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #184

Or, I might add... justly. n/t GreenEyedLefty Jan 2014 #196

Right. Judges don't have to justify any decision they make. n/t Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #203

Anecdote. AtheistCrusader Jan 2014 #85

I'm not talking about deadbeat parents, I'm talking about the GOOD ONES. Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #99

With no data in hand to quantify what 'good one' means even. AtheistCrusader Jan 2014 #100

The ones that want to participate in their child's life. The ones that don't mind paying a Darkhawk32 Jan 2014 #101

Exactly. AtheistCrusader Jan 2014 #122

Not really. Why should we believe this Faux article, pnwmom Jan 2014 #138

I for one believe that Bush was busted for drunk driving. Jim Lane Jan 2014 #253

The Only Scam erpowers Jan 2014 #146

Not just men, non-custodial parents in general. GreenEyedLefty Jan 2014 #154

I think it's the American system. defacto7 Jan 2014 #74

Sadly, some of you missed the point ecstatic Jan 2014 #75

Thanks for introducing some rational thought 1000words Jan 2014 #84

Yeah, he's highly likely to lose his job over this. AtheistCrusader Jan 2014 #90

I would have told that stupid judge, who in the B Calm Jan 2014 #86

Why did I know it was in Texas before I even clicked the link. TxDemChem Jan 2014 #91

Because it clearly says Houston in the post including the link. n/t tammywammy Jan 2014 #96

I guess it shows up differently on my phone. TxDemChem Jan 2014 #134

I hope he's appealing Warpy Jan 2014 #130

It says he walked out of court after she found him in contempt, pnwmom Jan 2014 #137

He'll lose. He admits there was an arrearage and he is responsible for that. Further msanthrope Jan 2014 #186

I was all prepared to have sympathy for this guy kdmorris Jan 2014 #143

Carefully reading between the lines, this person was screwing around with the support and msanthrope Jan 2014 #187

Lots of judicial discretion in family law cases. Laelth Jan 2014 #153

The article is obviously only part of the story cthulu2016 Jan 2014 #182

Why does an entire system have to be a joke due to one failure? treestar Jan 2014 #193

What a bunch of malarkey! Nine Jan 2014 #231

Support Calista241 Jan 2014 #252