Why "fun feminism" should be consigned to the rubbish bin

[MadrasT]

180. The question of gender

And whether gender is socially constructed or innate is something I have spent a LOT of time thinking about.

I believe that gender is mostly socially constructed, and I also support every individual's choice to identify with and present as whatever gender they wish, if that is something that calls to them strongly.

I do not understand what it is like to have a very strong affinity toward expressing as one gender or the other (whether that gender is a biological match or not). I am female-bodied and express as female but am basically what I believe people call "genderqueer" inside. The fact that I am "female" is just not important to me in any way and I do not identify strongly with women, womanhood, or "femaleness" in general.

But I also understand that gender identity is VERY important to some people, and so if people feel very strongly identified as the gender that doesn't match their biological bodies, I don't have a problem with that at all and fully support the choice to express gender however they wish. I don't understand the desire to do so, but I understand that the desire does exist and is extremely important to some people (even though I don't understand "why" because I don't share the experience of having a strong gender identity myself, either cis or trans).

I would like to ignore gender entirely. I think there is way too much emphasis on it overall.

But fact of the matter is, since I am living life as a female in a female body, even if I don't feel "female" (or even particularly care about whether I am "female" or "male" or "neutral&quot , a large part of society SEES me as "female" and TREATS ME as "female", so that made me start caring about feminism more.

Basically, I realized that I am affected by how society views women, even if actually "being a woman" is just not important to me in any way.