Man Over pays Child Support, And visits his son too much, Sentenced to 180 Days in Jail

[kdmorris]

140. If she's on welfare, she's not getting a dime of your child support

It goes to the state to pay for her being on welfare... if she's getting your child support and it's more than a welfare check - then she's not getting welfare. Unless you are talking about food stamps when you say welfare...

We all have personal stories. I had an abusive husband (now my ex husband) who didn't allow me to work and wanted me to keep having kids until we had a boy. I had three daughters (4 years, 2 years and 11 months old) when I left him. He refused to pay child support and so I worked 3 jobs to try to support my daughters. He ended up abusing my daughters one day when they were there for visitation and ended up going to jail for 18 months. (My daughters are now 26, 24 and 22 years old and I never saw a single penny of child support from him so I did end up on welfare. The state kept trying to get it from him, but he would just quit his job and get some under the table job to pay him cash). My daughters have not seen him since Christmas of 1996.

I don't believe that all men are like my ex-husband and all divorces are not as awful as mine was. My marriage and my divorce were incredibly painful, but I like to think that I don't start from "bitter" when I read something like the OP. But you seem to be coming at this allowing your personal experience to color your opinion. I really try not to jump to conclusions about others' child support/custody based on my own harrowing experience. (respectfully, that seems to be what you are doing)

I would agree that many men do get a raw deal in child custody and support matters. But not all do. Sometimes, there are real reasons why men do not get custody and required to pay child support. And I become suspicious when someone tells me that a woman makes more income than him because of a welfare check, child support and an income tax check... working 15-20 hours a week as a telemarketer will not generate enough income to get much of an EIC... you are not permitted to get welfare and child support both since about 1996 (welfare "reform&quot ...And if she is making enough to get a large EIC at the end of the year, then she is not eligible for welfare.

I was prepared to feel sorry for this guy, based on the headline. But, after reading the article, that is totally not what happened. He didn't get jailed for "overpaying" or "overvisiting". He got jailed for being an ass in court. Morale of the story: don't be an ass to the judge that holds your fate in their hands.