Man Over pays Child Support, And visits his son too much, Sentenced to 180 Days in Jail

[krispos42]

185. It's what happens after.

First, you have to decide what to do with the house, generally the biggest financial asset that has locked into it years of income. One person gets it... but what happens to the other person and his/her years of income that are in it?

Then you have to move. Where do you work? Where does the ex work? How far away is it? What are the hours?

You're the primary income earner; your spouse was a stay-at-home parent. Now, your spouse needs to get a job. But it's 200 miles away; there's nothing local around.

So now what? Who moves where? You have a job that pays well and you have years of seniority, so you don't want to follow the spouse around letting him/her drag you all over the country.

Then your spouse and/or your ex begin dating somebody. Maybe that somebody is an ass. Maybe that somebody has kids from a previous relationship. Maybe the kids are older, or younger, or both. Maybe one of them is a bully, or mentally or physically handicapped, or a "problem child".

Maybe your kid starts having problems dealing with the stress and the new people. Do you let your ex tell you who you can or cannot date? Does your ex let you tell him or her who they can or cannot date?


My ex and I separated in 2005. Amicably. We both moved to the Twin Cities area to escape her parents, who were pulling bad shit when they found out we were separating. We let things ride for a while, but after she showed up pregnant from her new BF, we both filed for divorce. We had already divided everything up when we left the state, and didn't have a house to fight over, so it was clean.

For 5 years afterwards, I worked and had our kid every weekend. She stayed at home and leeched off of her new BF, and eventually wound up popping out two more kids. We were flexible with care of our common kid; she took him to visit relatives on an infrequent but regular basis, and I did the same. No lawyers were involved, just "hey, next week I'm going to spend a week with my parents". "Okay, no problem."

At some point she and her 2nd hubby wound up moving over 150 miles away, and every Saturday I drove down to pick him up and bring him back, and every Monday I drove back down to drop him off. It was a long but peaceful and easy drive. No lawyers involved there, either.

We never fought about alimony (none) or child support ($350 a month). Lawyers didn't get involved until she left hubby #2 and decided to stay with a Canadian trucker 20 years her senior. So, I wound up bringing our common kid to my parents house in Connecticut and telling her "he's staying with me".

I enrolled him in kindergarten that very fall, and we've been here, in my parent's house, ever since. She's up in Canada, living there illegally, I believe, with her BF and her two other kids, and the issue has been dormant every since.