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haele

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187. Thanks.

Mon Jan 6, 2014, 01:37 PM

Jan 2014

She still hasn't quite gotten to the point she wants to face it (her current coping mechinism is still to run away from the issues of the past and her memories, but at least she's stopped trying to deny anything traumatic happened to her in the past and that those fears and emotions are still controlling her actions).

EMDR had been recommended to us by several of the very qualified adolescent therapists she "fired" when she was in denial a few years back, and my current employer's insurance covers EMDR.

But, she's still in charge of her own mental health choices and for the time being, she's depending on only on her medical marijuana and couch-locking her rage and fear to be able to function enough for part-time retail or day labor work. Unfortunately, the ACA and employer pharmacy plans don't cover MM dispenseries...her entire paycheck pretty much goes to her "meds".

We're hoping that over the next four years she's still able to be under my current employer's insurance, she will come around and want to work it out - if not only to save her some serious money and free up a lot of the time she currently spends avoiding her trauma.

Haele

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50 Is the New 65: Older Americans Are Getting Booted from Their Jobs -- and Denied New Opportunities [View all] xchrom Dec 2013 OP

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I was tossed out in my late 40s. I had a son in college B Calm Dec 2013 #2

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If you can drive a truck you can find work B Calm Dec 2013 #7

Same here madville Dec 2013 #11

So the unemployed are just obstinate and/or lazy? merrily Dec 2013 #23

That isn't what the poster wrote. nt bluestate10 Dec 2013 #96

It's a very fair inference from "If you can drive a truck, you merrily Dec 2013 #141

Is that what you think? B Calm Dec 2013 #101

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Don't listen to the haters... Drunken Irishman Dec 2013 #136

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Actually what he said was if you can drive a truck, OwnedByCats Jan 2014 #165

I think if all the unemployed had the skill and the license OwnedByCats Jan 2014 #166

No. It's what you implied. See Reply 141. merrily Dec 2013 #142

That is not what the poster wrote Tumbulu Dec 2013 #102

Personally, I would not want to drive a truck. SheilaT Dec 2013 #103

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All he did was explain what he did when he found himself out of a job OwnedByCats Jan 2014 #169

" If you can drive a truck you can find work" < You missed a few lines... jtuck004 Jan 2014 #171

Whatever OwnedByCats Jan 2014 #180

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I hope you are right. nt Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #87

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This message was self-deleted by its author haele Jan 2014 #164

I oopsed. (sign of age...) haele Jan 2014 #167

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My PTSD PasadenaTrudy Jan 2014 #184

Thanks. haele Jan 2014 #187

I'm one of them n/t SmittynMo Dec 2013 #61

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Cool, thanks! n/t PasadenaTrudy Dec 2013 #59

I think I will apply PasadenaTrudy Dec 2013 #62

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I think 2naSalit Dec 2013 #153

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All these corporate idiots do not understand Turbineguy Dec 2013 #144

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I'm reading a new book Turbineguy Jan 2014 #172

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happened to me in 2003 madrchsod Dec 2013 #86

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+1 B Calm Dec 2013 #111

I work for an Israeli company... trumad Dec 2013 #110

50 Somethings should Boycott All Businesses bucolic_frolic Dec 2013 #114

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Would that help? BobUp Dec 2013 #124

Lower age BobUp Dec 2013 #119

You can't Fudge the age of your degree bucolic_frolic Dec 2013 #121

True BobUp Dec 2013 #123

Younger people are a whole lot easier to manipulate. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2014 #174

My BobUp Jan 2014 #175

And the tougher things get enlightenment Dec 2013 #129

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I believe you BobUp Jan 2014 #176

Privacy went out the window with the internet. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2014 #181

Speaking of BobUp Jan 2014 #182

I don't do Facebook or any of those sites. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2014 #183

Good upbringing BobUp Jan 2014 #186

I told my son about this article and got a wtf response.... steve2470 Dec 2013 #125

Most 17 year old kids Abq_Sarah Dec 2013 #126

I agree steve2470 Dec 2013 #127

Kids don't get it. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2014 #162

I'm so grateful I have tenure. aikoaiko Dec 2013 #130

Kick. n/t area51 Dec 2013 #147

It happens to be EXACTLY why I became a dentist with my own practice... PCIntern Dec 2013 #158

Age trumps ability & accomplishments Loge23 Jan 2014 #179