Why Women Aren’t Welcome on the Internet

[RainDog]

156. yeah. my response was geared more toward professionals in the article

though, yes, some forums/sites with comments are worse than others. And, yeah, I would never bother, never waste my time posting a comment to yahoo, or even reading yahoo, for that matter. youtube - I stopped looking at comments there long ago, tho I hear they're trying to clean up the joint - which, as you say, is happening more often.

as far as it all goes here with DU... I saw the mention of "gender wars" in the OP and just ignored that, but I knew it would also bring someone out to complain. then I ignored the complaint. then I ignored (as in, didn't go back to read the upper part of the thread) the back and forth. some people want to call out what others have said... but I just wonder if, seeing the initial response - if that had just been ignored, there would be no opportunity to keep it up. And, of course, if the OP had just omitted the reference to previous conflicts here, then that wouldn't be an easy entry into creating the initial complaint... which is actually a good way to keep things on topic, by not bringing in the conflicts of previous interactions.

anyway, so I miss all the drama, and reply to the substance of the post, and then, when I go back and actually read the thread, it's like being in another universe of conflict on du that I don't want to participate in or to have that be my experience here...

what's so funny about peace, love and understanding is that it's more fun.

but part of my pov, maybe, comes from having to deal with bullies from elementary school - for three years - girls ganging up on a girl, then having a real life stalker since the age of 12 (he was a prolific stalker, but when he died, police said he was harmless... that didn't make me feel any better when he called off and on through the years to tell me what I had been up to, then showed up at my father's funeral decades later cause he knew my sister and I would be there...) - anyway, so sometimes all you can do is ignore that sort of thing and go on with your life. those were all real life, not internet, sorts of behaviors that included phone calls and physical intimidation, etc.

when my son was bullied, I called parents and said... I know you don't know your son is doing this and would be so embarrassed, so I wanted to let you know so you could tell him to stop this behavior. And it stopped.

so I guess I'm just going off what has worked for me, if someone is an adult, or doesn't have an adult who can stop these things.