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44. At my previous company, both the owner who worked on site and my boss before I left were bullies

Sat Jan 11, 2014, 10:04 PM

Jan 2014

The owner was a pound you into the ground type of guy. He was always right even when it defied objective reality. We said lots of insulting things to employees and always wanted to blame everyone. From all accounts, this was how he always was.
My immediate supervisor that I had for my last 6 months blamed me for everything and seemed to be actively trying to make me feel worthless. It may have been because she felt insecure and needed to eliminate me as a threat to her position.
My current boss isn't a bully, to me anyway, and gives me a lot of latitude to do what I want. It is a complete change from what I was used to. It definitely has made me more confident, a better problem solver, able to take more initiative, and probably a better overall worker.

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Ever had a bully for a boss? [View all] FatBuddy Jan 2014 OP

I've had a bully for a husband Ino Jan 2014 #1

I have seen those and after bulling you LukeFL Jan 2014 #45

Oh, yes...years ago...I would gauge my success by how loud (low) his yelling was... angstlessk Jan 2014 #2

Yep, some who are/were legend in entertainment and Wall Street dorkzilla Jan 2014 #3

Yes 2naSalit Jan 2014 #4

I got a job lined up and then quit...twice. dixiegrrrrl Jan 2014 #19

Yeah. 14 years. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2014 #5

I hear ya FatBuddy Jan 2014 #6

The irony is that getting out of that situation was better for me... and the family too. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2014 #8

Whoops--wrong place! Orrex Jan 2014 #59

I have a wanna be boss that is in a position where he has some limited authority. brewens Jan 2014 #7

Exactly. jsr Jan 2014 #9

For a few minutes. I'm not a good employee by any means, and the idea of Egalitarian Thug Jan 2014 #10

My last job, he was a master bully. Rex Jan 2014 #11

I had a bully supervisor, that sucked to no end. Initech Jan 2014 #12

Oh yeah and he got his in the end. notadmblnd Jan 2014 #13

The bully for whom I worked got promoted. spooky3 Jan 2014 #14

I'll tell anyone, the best thing you can do is keep a work diary notadmblnd Jan 2014 #15

Yes, I learned too late how good that advice was. spooky3 Jan 2014 #17

Like I said I had a bully supervisor. Initech Jan 2014 #25

funny how attitudes change when they know you're keeping score notadmblnd Jan 2014 #27

Yup and my supervisor ultimately quit after the boss started wishing up to what was happening. Initech Jan 2014 #34

I second that emotion, having worked for bullies in the past. nt raccoon Jan 2014 #36

I had bullies, assholes, idiots and nice guys that knew their job. The nice guys that knew their job doc03 Jan 2014 #16

OMG yes Holly_Hobby Jan 2014 #18

Yes, I had a very toxic boss for nine months. ananda Jan 2014 #20

Oh, yes. Several. I think anyone who has worked for more than a couple of years has. Buns_of_Fire Jan 2014 #21

Yes, and they are dishonest and intensely vindictive. They will even ruin their company's reputation freshwest Jan 2014 #22

You're fortunate in that you were finally able to transfer out from under them. Buns_of_Fire Jan 2014 #30

He denied a transfer I wanted to move out of town by getting the crew boss there to withdraw it, but freshwest Jan 2014 #35

Thanks. The situation finally resolved itself. They fired me. Buns_of_Fire Jan 2014 #55

Yes. Mine had Bipolar Disorder which I didn't know at the time. CTyankee Jan 2014 #23

Yes... but not for long. bvar22 Jan 2014 #24

Christie OLDMDDEM Jan 2014 #26

Yep. 99Forever Jan 2014 #28

My first job during high school was bagging groceries. lpbk2713 Jan 2014 #29

Most of my bosses were bullies but... marlakay Jan 2014 #31

Sometimes I'm afraid I come off rude or uncaring with our sales team FatBuddy Jan 2014 #39

Try to work as a team marlakay Jan 2014 #42

Had several over the years and the best thing to do is maintain a diary with times, dates, places, Thinkingabout Jan 2014 #32

State Said My Boss Was A Threat otohara Jan 2014 #33

Excellent point! nt arthritisR_US Jan 2014 #37

Remember how pissed he was, because Springsteen wouldn't talk with him... Historic NY Jan 2014 #38

no, i consider myself very lucky in the boss department. i'm probably an outlier. dionysus Jan 2014 #40

Yes. Worst job I ever had. Aristus Jan 2014 #41

I wouldn't call my boss a bully AndreaCG Jan 2014 #43

At my previous company, both the owner who worked on site and my boss before I left were bullies Nikia Jan 2014 #44

A year at Wells Fargo. IT department. randome Jan 2014 #46

Not so much bullies, RebelOne Jan 2014 #47

Yes. senseandsensibility Jan 2014 #48

Oh, yes. GreenEyedLefty Jan 2014 #49

Yes... WillyT Jan 2014 #50

I've had a few--a couple were top-downers, others were tearer-downers. MADem Jan 2014 #51

More often than not. Cleita Jan 2014 #52

yes, unfortunately. not any more. Liberal_in_LA Jan 2014 #53

Yes. And a psychopath. Lint Head Jan 2014 #54

The worst bully boss I had chervilant Jan 2014 #56

I'm still looking for work... Alkene Jan 2014 #57

You've been put through the wringer. JNelson6563 Jan 2014 #62

I'm wishing you the best. Solly Mack Jan 2014 #65

I've been lucky that way for the past 15years or so - But I have had about 3 or 4 bully bosses over Douglas Carpenter Jan 2014 #58

My current bosses are excellent. Previous one? Classic bully. Orrex Jan 2014 #60

Yep. Worst year of my life. ny MrScorpio Jan 2014 #61

Yes and they can make your life miserable. avebury Jan 2014 #63

Yes! polly7 Jan 2014 #64

Yes. Bully/sexual predator. Solly Mack Jan 2014 #66