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In reply to the discussion: Witchwind: "No woman is heterosexual" [View all]distantearlywarning
(4,475 posts)Those of us who are not religious fundies don't tolerate any explanations for homosexuality that involve "emotional brokenness", sin, "being brainwashed by liberals", "a product of one's environment", or anything else that isn't about an inborn orientation. That's because homosexuality *IS* an inborn orientation.
But guess what? That means that HETEROSEXUALITY is an inborn orientation too.
I am a woman who is a zero on the Kinsey scale. I am nearly 40 years old, and I have quite literally never met ANY woman who I felt any feelings of sexual or romantic attraction for. I even deliberately slept with a woman who I found to be asthetically attractive in college to make sure that I just wasn't feeling "repressed by my culture", to test whether maybe I would like it if I just tried it a few times, and nope, nada, nothing. It was like being with a man I had zero interest in, or my brother, or something. My very first romantic feelings as a small child were exclusively about little boys, and nothing has changed over the last 30 years since then. I like the PIV. It's nothing to apologize for, just like if I were a lesbian I wouldn't be expected to apologize for finding the PIV to be of no interest.
Thus, this woman's insistence that I am heterosexual because I have Stockholm Syndrome, and I would be a lesbian if I only I were an emotionally healthy person is deeply offensive to me. It is very reminiscent of what the fundies say about gay men - they are suffering some kind of emotional disorder, they were brainwashed by other gays at an early age, if only they would get psychological help from someone who knows what is best for them (i.e., the reparative 'therapy' hucksters) they would actually be straight, blah blah blah! It's all a total load of crap, no matter what side of the political spectrum it comes from. This woman, like the fundies, is merely trying to control other people's sexuality in a misguided and sad effort to prop up some extreme worldview she's invested herself in.
Also, she obviously has some serious issues with other women more generally. My guess is that her neediness or something drives them off, not the patriarchy.