Reports: 3 boys assaulted girl before her suicide

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161. Who makes Hollywood movies? Who makes Disney movies? By and large, it isn't women.

It is not women who are attracted to alpha males, it is men. The women I know IRL are not going for the alpha male.

There is a small subset of women who see men as a means to an end, who intentionally seek out men who have power. These women work hard to embody all the standards that men's competitive culture requires as fitting rewards for alpha men. These women are probably as numerous among women as alpha males are among men - a small fraction of the whole.

It is again men, not women, who legitimize the behavior of this small subset of women, by choosing these women when they "win the game" among men and become alpha men. The term "trophy wife" is instructive here. You get trophies after you have won the game.

And yes, there are men - I would argue men who have not achieved much maturity - who see the dynamic of the alpha male, who they have elected, getting the "hotter girl", who is hotter by standards that their relative immaturity has defined. They see these women they designated as "hot" going to the male they designated alpha male, and conclude that all women want an alpha male.

And yes, I would agree that this dynamic lowers the way these men view women, but their annoyance is really annoyance at the fact that they are not winning the alpha male sweepstakes among their fellow men.

Again, this does not originate with women. This originates with the election by men of the alpha male, and those men's definition of what constitutes women who are "hot" enough to be fitting rewards for that alpha male.

Women may be viewed in these circles as the motivating factor for the patriarchy, but those circles are kidding themselves, or are not looking logically at their own actions. If women were the motivating factor for the patriarchy, men would only compete over women. Women are the door prize in this kind of male competition. Power is the goal.

And yes, I totally agree: "This is the stereotype that boys are raised in."

Until the 1970s, girls were raised in a stereotype that said the only work they should aspire to was bearing children and cooking and waxing the floor. They were raised to think their bodies were for the benefit and use of others, and it was their fault when those bodies were abused. Their mothers and sisters were usually the most powerful conveyers of these messages.

Then women got their shit together and changed the stereotypes that women were raised in. Men, and a small subset of women - generally those who benefitted from the male hierarchy of power - fought back hard against the changes, and some continue to fight back hard to this day.

Men could not have instituted the changes to the stereotypes women were raised in. It would never have worked. It had to come from women.

If men are being raised in destructive stereotypes, which I believe they are, don't you think it's time that men got their shit together and stopped that? Redefine the qualities that men look for in a worthy leader, and redefine what men consider "hot" among women, and life for all of us will quickly get a lot better.