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MineralMan

(150,521 posts)
10. Consider writing a letter.
Mon Jan 27, 2014, 10:35 AM
Jan 2014

Lay out the issues and propose solutions to them. Explain your concerns about the behaviors and ask them to work to reduce the issues.

Avoid any sort of language that could seem to be threatening, and ask for their cooperation in minimizing the activities that are causing you concern. Tell them that you know they'll be interested in reducing liabilities caused by their children's activities that impact you.

Mail the letter to them, noting that a copy of the letter has been sent to the property owners. Send a copy to the property owners, with a cover letter, explaining that you're trying to get their tenants to work on correcting issues that concern you. Keep a copy of both letters for future reference.

Whatever you do, don't get into a verbal argument with them. That never works out well. Just let them know about your concerns and that you'd like to see changes that would reduce those concerns. The copy to the property owner should do the trick.

Note that this won't make them friendly toward you, but it may work to reduce the annoyance and risk.

I've done this successfully more than once with troublesome neighbors. The behavior stopped, and it was probably the copy sent to the landlord that did the job. In one case, the issue was an overgrown back yard full of weeds and trash. The keywords that got the property owner's attention was "vermin" and "health department."

Just make it an upbeat letter, not a rant. If the letter doesn't work, contact the property owners again, this time without copying the neighbor. If the behavior escalates, consider notifying the authorities if the property owners don't deal with it.

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Neighbor issue what would you do? [View all] redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 OP
Are they owners? Renters? Glitterati Jan 2014 #1
They rent. redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #3
Yeah, the landlord is a very likely solution Glitterati Jan 2014 #9
You might also talk to your other neighbors who have issues with them. Fla Dem Jan 2014 #13
The landlord is the key. He would not want to be liable for anything they do. SummerSnow Jan 2014 #16
Yes, call the landlord. Call the police, too, start a paper trail Warpy Jan 2014 #38
can you close off your property with a 6 ft privacy fence? lunasun Jan 2014 #2
We have a 6 foot fence. redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #4
whatever gets thrown in your yard you get to keep, start a collection snooper2 Jan 2014 #5
Awesome :) nt TBF Jan 2014 #7
I like this idea! redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #8
WTF? TBF Jan 2014 #6
WOW then let the landlord know about the ladder and what the kids are doing to the dogs lunasun Jan 2014 #15
Just don't let the police anywhere near the dogs n/t Scootaloo Jan 2014 #54
+1000 G_j Jan 2014 #62
Consider writing a letter. MineralMan Jan 2014 #10
excellent idea...leave a paper trail and make sure its certified..proof you sent it SummerSnow Jan 2014 #19
The certified letter probably isn't needed at this stage. MineralMan Jan 2014 #35
That is excellent, excellent advice. Yo_Mama Jan 2014 #21
This is good advice with one addition. Take pictures of everything. aikoaiko Jan 2014 #24
Excellent suggestion!!! n/t RKP5637 Jan 2014 #52
start by keeping whatever is thrown into your yard, and yes geek tragedy Jan 2014 #11
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #12
I just talked to another neighbor redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #14
let the landlord know it is not just you -other neighbors are getting involved in this lunasun Jan 2014 #17
I agree, that is why I haven't called before. redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #18
I would follow MineralMan's advice and show a copy Yo_Mama Jan 2014 #25
Don't just call. Document the call with date, time, notes of what was said AND WRITE A LETTER TOO KittyWampus Jan 2014 #30
Nuke the site from orbit. Orrex Jan 2014 #20
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #22
Fie on your half-measures. Orrex Jan 2014 #23
OK, settle down Ripley! demwing Jan 2014 #34
The little brats seem intent on hurting your dogs for their amusement. PearliePoo2 Jan 2014 #26
Yup, ditto to this..... a kennedy Jan 2014 #59
you give them back their stuff? mercuryblues Jan 2014 #27
I agree with the others Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #28
Start documenting things. With photos and dates. KittyWampus Jan 2014 #29
Steal their tools when they're thrown. Eventually they'll either tell their kids Dash87 Jan 2014 #31
My husband says we are being nice when we should be nasty :-). redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #32
Don't get nasty with that family. Sounds like they are anti-social. You have no idea bluestate10 Jan 2014 #50
Document. Document. Document. Iggo Jan 2014 #33
1. file a complaint tell them you want it on file for now while you put up 2. Cameras in your Drew Richards Jan 2014 #36
I would set up security cameras. nt Incitatus Jan 2014 #37
Take pictures and document. former9thward Jan 2014 #39
I would start with a cordial phone call to the property owners. hamsterjill Jan 2014 #40
Update redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #41
I hope the renters wise up Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #42
Believe it or not...THIS is escalation...you need cameras Up NOW! you think it was bad before... Drew Richards Jan 2014 #43
I hate to think they beat those kids! redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #44
Vue zone ip cams ecstatic Jan 2014 #60
Good! safety in numbers and all that - united front to owners will make them act (& that $300 bill ) lunasun Jan 2014 #61
I would be really really concerned about your dogs avebury Jan 2014 #45
It just dawned on me that you are a fellow avebury Jan 2014 #46
Norman redstatebluegirl Jan 2014 #55
Buy 130 dozen eggs and call Justin Bieber Generic Brad Jan 2014 #47
In my neighborhood the sheriffs have a unit where they send officers to Cleita Jan 2014 #48
Call the cops is the kids throw dangerous stuff at you dogs again. The Husband bluestate10 Jan 2014 #49
I would contact the police for advice and also to establish an audit trail. You have no idea RKP5637 Jan 2014 #51
Along with all the defensive documentation defacto7 Jan 2014 #53
I go out of my way to just get along with my neighborhood. The last B Calm Jan 2014 #56
It is so sad that not all parents hold their children avebury Jan 2014 #57
stand your ground. PowerToThePeople Jan 2014 #58
*sigh* Puzzledtraveller Jan 2014 #63
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