Anyone who thinks an adult telling about being molested as a child is a liar --

[hollysmom]

42. Of course she is not self medicated anythingelse

She is a dean of a college, but her husband divorced her after she spent years with a psychologist who "helped" her recover these memories through hypnotism when it was the rage. He could not deal with her obsession with it, she was writing a book and confronted everyone in her family for not saving her from her father. Look, I am high strung and tend to be depressed. Mostly after a lifetime of fighting for respect in the work environment and also because I am a hyper concentrater due to ADHD - My cousin was a happy kid, we grew up together, she had 2 younger sisters who are happy and well adjusted and a bother who was born with a serious heart defect that is living well and happy with his family, she was very pretty and popular in school as were her sisters.

My Uncle was the only one in his family to be educated, all his brothers chipped in and put him through college and he tried to help those he could but it was a big family and he had 4 kids as well. He worked for an oil company and spent most of his life traveling to trouble spots around the world, If it was a good place, he tool his family, if it was not so good, he left them in their lovely 3 bedroom home. One bedroom for the parents, one for the boy and one for the three girls. Some times I slept over there. Now I have had handsy relatives, one aunt's husband for a short marriage, my uncle was not one of them and I had a lot of uncles now all dead - we are old (14) not to mention second uncles and friends of the family that I did not like touching me. and some icky slobbering kissing aunts as well. The other cousins in the family say did not happen, and they seem happy.

Right now, mu cousin is still estranged from her family, even though her mother is very old and quite ill, her father has been dead for 15 years. She is bitter and angry and insists recovered memories are valid. It may be for some, but for others they could be symbolic of something else.

So please, you know less about this than I do, I have been aware of all the contortions of this situation for over 20 years as she contacts me to complain about her family being unsupportive and her sisters contact me about how disturbed she is. Her father was out of the country for a lot of the dates she accuses him of molesting her. I think it might be a resentment of abandonment that he left his family for work. But I do not claim that is the answer, it is just a random guess.