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Hekate

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64. I think you mean validation. However, age & chronic depression have ensured I "fit in" wherever.

Tue Feb 4, 2014, 04:17 AM

Feb 2014

I long ago learned to smile and nod. Now -- wth -- it's just people talking, and if I have any connection to the topic I can do my part. I can always talk about the grand kids; that's universal. It used to be really painful at times while I was still working 40 hours a week, because there was just no escape. Now I have my own interests and people to share them, for which I am grateful. I hope that meets with your approval.

OK, end of defensive snark.

Every human being has an inherent need for validation, and as long as it hurts no one, why should you care if they get it from being in a bowling league or square dancing or the Lions Club? Does it bother you that some people belong to clubs relating to their ethnic heritage, and that you don't qualify? Does it upset you that you can never qualify to play in the NFL? Do you feel excluded and shamed and put-down? Do you automatically assume that the teeny tiny number of humans who can and do belong in the NFL look down on you as a lesser being? No? Then why is it only intelligence and intellectual attainment that make people feel like that?

Think about it.

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4-year-old Anala Beevers Accepted into MENSA with IQ of 145 [View all] sheshe2 Feb 2014 OP

She is a power house at 4 years old....abc's at 4 months..ha ha. Jefferson23 Feb 2014 #1

Dad said she was a handful, I bet she is. sheshe2 Feb 2014 #5

I'll bet we have a few congresscritters who don't know their ABCs. NYC_SKP Feb 2014 #7

Oh I feel your pain, sheshe2 Feb 2014 #9

lol. +1. nt clarice Feb 2014 #80

yea...sounds like she is likely higher than 145...probably too hard to really measure a 4 year old. Lucky Luciano Feb 2014 #98

K&R burrowowl Feb 2014 #2

I concur Mira Feb 2014 #14

Yes. Look at her eyes. Maybe it is just my imagination, but she looks really scary smart. JDPriestly Feb 2014 #62

Doesn't IQ measure higher as folks age? TBF Feb 2014 #68

IQ test scores are normed for age AngryAmish Feb 2014 #108

Right on. 2naSalit Feb 2014 #3

Wow sakabatou Feb 2014 #4

k&r handmade34 Feb 2014 #6

Good for Anala being so intelligent at four. Nice addition Cha Feb 2014 #8

Good kick off indeed Cha! sheshe2 Feb 2014 #10

More to come! DeSwiss Feb 2014 #11

I rejected Mensa membership Galileo126 Feb 2014 #12

If you knew anything about Mensa Demeter Feb 2014 #19

Thank you for speaking up. murielm99 Feb 2014 #36

I Went To A Couple Of Meeting In Chicago ProfessorGAC Feb 2014 #88

+1 spinbaby Feb 2014 #115

Where to even begin? ..... Nah, no point. nt Hekate Feb 2014 #20

I agree. Anyone with a high enough SAT score or a high enough score on pnwmom Feb 2014 #26

Why post this? Bragging? Weird to me! nt Logical Feb 2014 #28

As a Mensa member, you're not talking about me or others I know. SharonAnn Feb 2014 #46

What exactly do you do? woolldog Feb 2014 #119

I joined Mensa a long time ago but let my membership lapse soon after. Kablooie Feb 2014 #49

Sure you did. Vashta Nerada Feb 2014 #55

.that's precisely how I feel about people who allegedly turn down memberships to MENSA... LanternWaste Feb 2014 #90

. Glassunion Feb 2014 #99

This little girl really is impressive. I like her. Archae Feb 2014 #13

The monthly journal accepts paid advertising. I've never met any of those people, altho... Hekate Feb 2014 #21

It's not just advertising. Archae Feb 2014 #24

Mostly I don't read the magazine, but occasionally have found articles of interest. Hekate Feb 2014 #32

I've known about three dozen people who've self-identified as MENSA members Orrex Feb 2014 #22

Kind of like DU on a slow news day. LanternWaste Feb 2014 #91

LOL! Hekate Feb 2014 #100

Impressive little one! calimary Feb 2014 #15

Hi, calimary! sheshe2 Feb 2014 #16

Beautiful! Phlem Feb 2014 #17

How is that possible? Deep13 Feb 2014 #18

But with poorer memory, Rain Man, if I remember correctly, had eidetic memory. Humanist_Activist Feb 2014 #29

Yeah, remembered everything and could count really fast too. nt Deep13 Feb 2014 #74

George W Bush can't even say the word "nuclear". lpbk2713 Feb 2014 #23

. ReRe Feb 2014 #34

Neither can Sarah Palin indie9197 Feb 2014 #39

I suspect she has Eidetic Memory. Promethean Feb 2014 #25

Could you remind what that is again? Orrex Feb 2014 #27

Photographic Memory - TBF Feb 2014 #69

That will help you on a lot of things... kjones Feb 2014 #75

Agree - TBF Feb 2014 #78

Open up the doors and let her go as far as she wants to! kestrel91316 Feb 2014 #30

The nicest thing about Mensa is being in a group where you are "normal" at least part-time Hekate Feb 2014 #31

Good to see you Hekate. sheshe2 Feb 2014 #33

I agree. It is the one place murielm99 Feb 2014 #37

Re aspies: There's a high tolerance for "difference" Hekate Feb 2014 #101

You don't feel "normal" around ordinary folk? Really? delrem Feb 2014 #40

I think you mean validation. However, age & chronic depression have ensured I "fit in" wherever. Hekate Feb 2014 #64

So I recently joined the 999 society. NYC_SKP May 2015 #120

Big surprise to see this old thread pop up. I hope you enjoy yourself meeting new people.... Hekate May 2015 #122

She should join one of the selective high-IQ societies. Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2014 #35

What she >should< do is be a normal kid with lots of interests Hekate Feb 2014 #38

Bingo! sheshe2 Feb 2014 #44

Yep she can join those groups when she's an adult if she wants to. Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2014 #83

That's why I left in college and returned in my 30s. I saw the same UU connections you did... Hekate Feb 2014 #89

You're right. Programmers too. Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2014 #96

My nephew's son knew all the capitols at 4. His very r/w religious parents loudsue Feb 2014 #41

From your mouth to Gawds ear, loudsue! sheshe2 Feb 2014 #43

You should see this little guy. He looks up into his parents faces and says loudsue Feb 2014 #47

My son was five mzteris Feb 2014 #52

IQ 210 Kim Ung-Yong always impressed me doing calculus at age 4 on TV. Lucky Luciano Feb 2014 #42

�Society should not judge anyone with unilateral standards" jsr Feb 2014 #70

I read about that as well - he seems pretty well adjusted and desires a simple life. nt Lucky Luciano Feb 2014 #97

My son was reading a few months before his 3rd birthday, BobTheSubgenius Feb 2014 #45

Oh my! sheshe2 Feb 2014 #48

What did he go on to do? MrMickeysMom Feb 2014 #50

Your last line is . . . not surprising, for a child like that. pnwmom Feb 2014 #59

A lot of smart kids drop out and get a GED because they are bored. Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2014 #85

She also has an IQ of OMG THAT KID IS SO CUTE I COULD POP! nt tblue37 Feb 2014 #51

She sure is, tblue. n/t sheshe2 Feb 2014 #54

My daughter learned advanced algebra at age 2, delrem Feb 2014 #53

impressive marions ghost Feb 2014 #86

does she acuse chestnuts of being lazy ? NM_Birder Feb 2014 #93

she bounces on the couch a lot delrem Feb 2014 #94

is it...an "evil" couch ? NM_Birder Feb 2014 #95

Sooo.... RobinA Feb 2014 #104

How could they tell she knew the alphabet at four months? treestar Feb 2014 #56

Mensa... People obsessed with their intelligence. nt longship Feb 2014 #57

Are you really willing to speak with authority about this, or are you just sad? NYC_SKP May 2015 #121

"I'm FOUR and smarter than my parents" -- OK, let's talk turkey here: struggle4progress Feb 2014 #58

I think every 4 year old thinks that, and she might be in a lot of ways. pnwmom Feb 2014 #60

Wisdom comes with experience, not age, but right on otherwise. n/t FSogol Feb 2014 #73

FYI, I, like most mammals can regulate my body temperature. FSogol Feb 2014 #72

If you have conscious control of your body temp, then I am impressed struggle4progress Feb 2014 #82

For heaven's sake don't showcase her! Laffy Kat Feb 2014 #61

+1 MadrasT Feb 2014 #65

Now there's a brain the right wing will be after! grahamhgreen Feb 2014 #63

I have mixed feelings about this. MadrasT Feb 2014 #66

+1. nt bemildred Feb 2014 #67

Agree. n/t lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #76

I sincerely hope they don't go the reality show route. arcane1 Feb 2014 #81

I hope the little smartie changes her name! Quantess Feb 2014 #71

The name is beautiful and has meaning. bravenak Feb 2014 #77

I ain't in MENSA, but I suspect that the comment referred to Ms Beevers' surname. Orrex Feb 2014 #102

That's weird. bravenak Feb 2014 #103

No. Quantess Feb 2014 #106

Kids are indeed cruel. Orrex Feb 2014 #109

You hadn't considered the "anal" in Anala? OK, obviously the parents hadn't either. Quantess Feb 2014 #110

No, I hadn't considered anal, but thanks for asking. Orrex Feb 2014 #111

Sorry, I just think it's not a good name. Quantess Feb 2014 #116

I should perhaps state clearly that I agree with you Orrex Feb 2014 #117

you get what I'm thinking. Anyway. Quantess Feb 2014 #118

I think Anala, is a beautiful name. sheshe2 Feb 2014 #113

amazing.... clarice Feb 2014 #79

I wonder how many more weeks (days?) will pass before Lunacee_2013 Feb 2014 #84

Alphabet at 4 Months ProfessorGAC Feb 2014 #87

I feel particularly humbled when I read of even the typical genius... LanternWaste Feb 2014 #92

Am I RobinA Feb 2014 #105

Why? Because her name is Anala Beevers? Quantess Feb 2014 #107

I'm Not Sure RobinA Feb 2014 #112

Kind of like walking at 6 months. Both are not physically possible. But oh, those eyes! Still libdem4life Feb 2014 #114