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In reply to the discussion: Should a baby conceived by in vitro after father's death be eligible for SSI? [View all]KJsMom
(8 posts)I am the mother of a child conceived after my husband died. We planned for this child; my husband donated his sperm specifically to leave to me so that we could have a child. I did not even think about the social security benefits until after my child was born and someone asked me about them. I am currently appealing a denial in my own state and may or may not actually make it back to court depending on the Supreme Court ruling. When you do a will, you can leave property and other inheritance to grand children that are not even conceived yet, so why should my child be denied the benefits that his father paid in to his entire life and would want his son to have? For me, I feel like my son is being discriminated against because of the way he was conceived. My husband had to give me legal rights to use his sperm in the event of his death (he had brain cancer) and so he obviously consented to this child. I'm always surprised at the level of hostility from some people about this issue. There is only a hand full of children in this country conceived this way and that will always be the case. It's not as if giving them the social security benefits they deserve and their father's provided for them is going to increase the national debt or create a hardship for tax payers. I see denying these children what is rightfully theirs as discriminatory and, frankly, misogynistic. My child was not conceived through use of some anonymous sperm donor. He had a father who wanted him and would want him to have these benefits.