Woody Allen Speaks Out

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129. yep--that makes a lot of sense; I can conclude he's a narcissistic boundary violator if nothing else

And frankly, it doesn't seem like Farrow has a healthy sense of boundaries either, though her issues probably stemmed from early abuse. But there seem to be boundary violations all over that family.

So did she "cause" it? No. But the accounts of her actions do suggest that she could have used a good 20 years of Al-Anon or some other support group to help her recognize boundary violations and thereby set a healthier example. In that climate, Soon Yi would be even more susceptible to a narcissist, boundary-violator like Allen.

But he's the primary perp here, not her.

I'd agree with that assessment that her number one issue was a continued relationship with someone she recognized was a narcissistic abuser--but then that's often the case when entangled with narcissists, batterers, active alcoholics, etc. They're very good at getting you to question yourself and think you're overreacting and to hope that they've "changed."