I dare to write about: Men and Women Today

[Harmony Blue]

238. I can give some insight

into what young men and women think.

What I see with young men and women in their 20's is that they are confused about what they believe in as adults given the conflicting messages through the media that they receive. As most of you know you don't stop fully developing your brain well into your 20's and your experiences continue to shape you till your mid 20's.

Women in their 20's tend to reach their zenith in sexual appeal and youthful looks but some fail to realize they must cultivate much more. Youthful looks start to fade at 30 and on wards and personality starts to matter more for lasting relationships I have personally found. Young men don't understand this when I try to explain this concept to them but they are after all living the moment of their 20's so who am I to say they can't live their own lives as they see fit? Still, there are women that do focus on college, careers, and cultivating themselves however they lose sight of the simple things in life and relationships. These career women are torn between their careers and families often during their child bearing years.

Heterosexual Men in their 20's tend to put too much emphasis on trying to appeal to these young women and putting them on a pedestal. What they fail to realize that most women tend to be attracted to these so called "Alpha" men is because these adult men treat these women as equals. They don't grovel or beg for sex or make sexual overtones or ogle at them. It is implicitly understood that a sexual relationship with another human being is part of being an adult. But these young men have yet to fully mature and realize that is a small part of becoming an adult. Because there is so much more to life than sex, but when I tell them this they have a hard time understanding this. At that stage of their lives their hormones are sky high and they don't have experience to understand what they are feeling.

Additional insight about young men I can give is that they don't understand what their role should be when dating. My best response is to be yourself and treat that person as an equal. True, it is easier said then done when you are nervous and have butterflies. However, they quickly subside if you don't follow a script and be yourself. Young adults tend to focus too much on peer approval about a person they are dating but I often tell them that to become a full fledged adult you have to start making more and more choices on your own.

Just some minor observations of mine that I have seen