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Tommy_Carcetti

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30. I'll always remember the one time I heard "n**r" directed at a black person by a white in anger.
Tue Feb 11, 2014, 01:21 PM
Feb 2014

I was walking in the parking lot of my local grocery store and I see a white woman in a car, with the window open. A black woman was standing outside by the car window, and I heard it, clear as day: "You n***r!"

And I immediately could tell that it was being said in an angry--and not joking--context. I have no idea what the argument was about, but I knew there was hatred behind it.

I remember being in shock. Something in my mind wanted me to go up to the woman and say something, but I just remember being shocked at what I heard. Because I had never heard it before in my life said like that, outside of the movies. I'd heard the word before, including by white people to describe black people, but I'd never heard it actually being directed to a black person by a white person.

And by the time the shock had lifted, the woman had driven off. But I often fantasize about going up to that woman and giving her a piece of my mind for what she said. It was disgusting.

i don't think you were wrong in thinking they could be armed JI7 Feb 2014 #1
You were cautious; elleng Feb 2014 #2
I used my Mother's look, it is the one I used to give kids who came in my office redstatebluegirl Feb 2014 #4
It's hard to speak up Warpy Feb 2014 #3
My car broke down half block away madamesilverspurs Feb 2014 #5
Unfortunately, a whole lot of folks who carry arms in the city are bigots. Hoyt Feb 2014 #6
I always feel better when I do libodem Feb 2014 #7
people are crazy, you probably did the right thing. spanone Feb 2014 #8
What would you have said? Squinch Feb 2014 #9
I have been thinking about that I'm not sure except to say redstatebluegirl Feb 2014 #12
In a similar situation, I try to be extra-nice to the person who's being slagged. MH1 Feb 2014 #15
I would have simply said ... frazzled Feb 2014 #23
Shame them Bandit Feb 2014 #24
That would do it! Squinch Feb 2014 #31
As hard as it might be for you you can't be everyone in the worlds protector madokie Feb 2014 #10
Mumble under your breath...then if they threaten you...SHOOT THEM angstlessk Feb 2014 #11
k&r Liberal_in_LA Feb 2014 #13
I understand your apprehension steve2470 Feb 2014 #14
What can you say that would change them? Savannahmann Feb 2014 #16
I think if a person is shamed enough in public it may just change their behavior Bandit Feb 2014 #22
It would let them know they are beyond the bounds of acceptable behavior treestar Feb 2014 #28
Shaming only works(and it never really works take fat shaming for example) on people with liberal_at_heart Feb 2014 #33
I think you were right to keep silent (at least to them). ladyVet Feb 2014 #17
I think you have to follow your conscience .... oldhippie Feb 2014 #18
You might well get him fired too. bemildred Feb 2014 #19
Racists + Guns Go Together otohara Feb 2014 #20
Hate to be the bearer pipi_k Feb 2014 #21
I think OP did the right thing, but here you are treestar Feb 2014 #29
I think many things have changed when we make them unacceptable. Squinch Feb 2014 #32
Not smart of those two morans assuming the guy working the counter didn't hear them, too. Ikonoklast Feb 2014 #25
I don't know what the answer is get the red out Feb 2014 #26
Hey, you gave them the look. JEB Feb 2014 #27
I'll always remember the one time I heard "n**r" directed at a black person by a white in anger. Tommy_Carcetti Feb 2014 #30
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