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bettyellen

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42. good to hear you are taking that step. you will be setting a great example by coping with the issue

Fri Feb 14, 2014, 03:40 PM

Feb 2014

rather than sweeping it under the rug. no matter how hard it is to go through a break up, it will be better for the kids to have a positive environment where everyone's happiness and health are made a clear priority.
I grew up in a house filled with mental health issues, a lot of strife and tragedy.... and my two brothers who tried to ignore or forget it, instead of cope and process, are both pretty hopeless alcoholics now. They never learned self care, coping, drawing boundaries, etc. I got a lot of grief for actually admitting we had experienced so many things that were painful, but I chose not to gloss it over, or to live in shame over it any more. I wish they had been able to see that takes more strength than burying their heads in the sand. Stoicism -in the long run- is an overrated quality. Please find the best allies you can to help you through this. Good luck.

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Any suggestion on dealing with a bi polar sibling? [View all] peace13 Feb 2014 OP

It's sad but unless you can catch Sue in a more lucid and less belligerent moment Warpy Feb 2014 #1

Thanks Warpy. peace13 Feb 2014 #2

Please be careful with the word "crazy." chervilant Feb 2014 #6

Oh, please. Warpy Feb 2014 #40

Wow. chervilant Feb 2014 #45

I have a bipolar wife Victor_c3 Feb 2014 #3

Thank you so much for this. peace13 Feb 2014 #7

Firstly, here's hoping things work out well for you and yours. Secondly .... Scuba Feb 2014 #18

Thanks for the thought and the concern Victor_c3 Feb 2014 #31

Victor, they know. Sweet Freedom Feb 2014 #37

I am so sorry Sweet Freedom Feb 2014 #29

You know what, I think I will talk to a therapist about my kids Victor_c3 Feb 2014 #33

Good for you! Sweet Freedom Feb 2014 #36

good to hear you are taking that step. you will be setting a great example by coping with the issue bettyellen Feb 2014 #42

I think you also should be scared of what living in that kind of situation will do to your kids. nt raccoon Feb 2014 #52

wow victor. PowerToThePeople Feb 2014 #35

She needs a complete work up gwheezie Feb 2014 #4

excellent post steve2470 Feb 2014 #8

Thank you Steve. peace13 Feb 2014 #16

Thanks for this peace13 Feb 2014 #10

My sister was diagnosed bipolar more than 10 years ago. chervilant Feb 2014 #5

Thanks for the information. peace13 Feb 2014 #11

I had to do inpatient treatment before I could see that I really had a problem. bravenak Feb 2014 #9

Thank you for the advice. peace13 Feb 2014 #13

Good luck. bravenak Feb 2014 #14

5th Rec for a little more visibility Hekate Feb 2014 #12

Thank you so much! peace13 Feb 2014 #15

Since Sue is dealing with it herself with the help of qualified medical facility Demeter Feb 2014 #17

Neither did I until she told me. peace13 Feb 2014 #21

You and the others here are describing... Phentex Feb 2014 #19

Thank you for the kind words. peace13 Feb 2014 #20

I hope she pursues treatment. I have a son who is 36 who has been bi-polar his whole life. OregonBlue Feb 2014 #23

Thank you for this. peace13 Feb 2014 #24

Thank you so much for the valentines! peace13 Feb 2014 #22

Much of what you are telling us sounds very like my brother who was diagnosed years ago. All I can jwirr Feb 2014 #25

Thank you for this. peace13 Feb 2014 #41

Anti-depressants can make bi-polar symptoms worse. hunter Feb 2014 #26

That water treading visualization is wonderful. Beautiful!! peace13 Feb 2014 #39

As someone else implied... Xolodno Feb 2014 #27

Her blood pressure has been an issue in the recent past. peace13 Feb 2014 #32

my recommendation is to take care of yourself first. unblock Feb 2014 #28

This. missingthebigdog Feb 2014 #30

Thanks for this! peace13 Feb 2014 #34

Thank you for this. peace13 Feb 2014 #38

Cart before horse - TBF Feb 2014 #43

Thanks! peace13 Feb 2014 #44

One can detect bipolar disorder or depression from a CT scan? lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #46

This was a preliminary look at a test scan. The doc thought that what he was looking at was.... peace13 Feb 2014 #47

I wish I could help more, but my local chapter of NAMI is a good resource. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #48

I was just going to suggest NAMI too LiberalEsto Feb 2014 #49

Thank you for this! N/t peace13 Feb 2014 #50

My Ex Wife was Bi-polar Notafraidtoo Feb 2014 #51

Thank you so much for taking the time and energy to post this! peace13 Feb 2014 #53