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kimbutgar

(27,298 posts) Fri Feb 14, 2014, 09:22 PM Feb 2014

I just got punched in the gut [View all]

My 21 year old son with autism just got a 30 day notice to leave his group home. He had a meltdown in Costco yesterday and had a meltdown because they told him he couldn't take pictures and he lost it. He vomited on a lady and she pressed charges against for assault. This was the final straw for him at ghe group home. He likes the home and staff but the executive director said he has to go. My husband and I are devastated. He's lived in the home for 15 months. We were bringing him home every other weekend. It was good for all of us and now we don't know what to do. The agency that placed him is closed for the three day weekend we are in limbo. A stupid meltdown has destroyed his life, and ours also. Damn autism strikes again.

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I just got punched in the gut [View all] kimbutgar Feb 2014 OP

Does he have a social worker? They may be able to help..n/t monmouth3 Feb 2014 #1

No one is reachable at 5 pm on Friday before a 3 day weekend. kimbutgar Feb 2014 #2

I am so sorry you're going through this. n/t monmouth3 Feb 2014 #3

Hugs Stargazer09 Feb 2014 #4

Hopefully you can get with caregivers Monday and work something out. Hoyt Feb 2014 #5

Hugs, hugs and more hugs... Tikki Feb 2014 #6

I can't believe you can file assault when someone vomits on you hollysmom Feb 2014 #7

What sort of awful person would press charges for assault in this situation? mythology Feb 2014 #8

is the lady pressing charges aware of his autism? Skittles Feb 2014 #9

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I hope something can be worked out. If this home doesn't okaawhatever Feb 2014 #10

My nephew has had MANY meltdowns, and mutters obscenities under his breath all the time dorkzilla Feb 2014 #11

It will be a long 3 day weekend kimbutgar Feb 2014 #14

Yes, my dear, it most certainly will. And you'll get through it. dorkzilla Feb 2014 #20

I am sorry shenmue Feb 2014 #12

Did the director give you any advice for other group homes? lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #13

No advice my husband picked him up he got the news from the house manager kimbutgar Feb 2014 #16

I'm so sorry this happened. LiberalAndProud Feb 2014 #15

Thank you kimbutgar Feb 2014 #17

Thanks to all of you for the support I am in shock kimbutgar Feb 2014 #18

Who presses charges because someone throws up on them? Aerows Feb 2014 #19

I'm sure the charges will be dropped when some enlightened person explains the situation... dorkzilla Feb 2014 #21

You'd hope? Aerows Feb 2014 #22

I hope and pray with every fiber of my being... dorkzilla Feb 2014 #24

I know, laying charges seems very drastic arikara Feb 2014 #36

I threw up all over my sister Aerows Feb 2014 #39

I am so sorry you are all going through this. I have to say thought that Maraya1969 Feb 2014 #23

sorry you are going thru this kimbutgar, hope it works out Liberal_in_LA Feb 2014 #25

So sorry that you are going through this! Tumbulu Feb 2014 #26

the system is broken ellennelle Feb 2014 #27

I am so sorry. RiffRandell Feb 2014 #28

I don't think the charges will hold up, in the mean time they will arthritisR_US Feb 2014 #29

He has to leave a group home because SheilaT Feb 2014 #30

Maybe that's for the best. What kind of idiots take somebody with autism to Costco? LeftyMom Feb 2014 #31

He's being charged with assault. LiberalAndProud Feb 2014 #32

Intentionally getting your body fluids on someone is assault. LeftyMom Feb 2014 #33

I did not see the OP claim the vomiting was intentiona Shivering Jemmy Feb 2014 #34

You either have to be way up into somebody's personal space to puke on them LeftyMom Feb 2014 #35

When my son has his meltdowns he is in another zone. kimbutgar Feb 2014 #40

Speaking from experience Shivering Jemmy Feb 2014 #42

That's a good question. Seems to me there should be some smaller neighborhood markets liberal_at_heart Feb 2014 #45

Your empathy and compassion are touching. Common Sense Party Feb 2014 #49

The provider needs to give you 30 days written notice. Change has come Feb 2014 #37

Why is this "the final straw" in all of that? flvegan Feb 2014 #38

The "kid" is 21. REP Feb 2014 #50

This is just sickening. The Ayn Rand nation we live in. What a country. Enthusiast Feb 2014 #41

I'm very sorry to hear that. Common Sense Party Feb 2014 #43

It's not your fault and it's not your son's fault. We have a broken system. It's the system's fault. liberal_at_heart Feb 2014 #44

You are in California? Good. Get a lawyer..because you want to challenge the notice msanthrope Feb 2014 #46

If there were any way to offer help, I would - raven mad Feb 2014 #47

Thanks for this. kimbutgar Feb 2014 #48