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FourScore

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145. No. That's not who I am. I really wanted a solution.

Tue Feb 18, 2014, 11:06 AM

Feb 2014

I had just been embroiled in a discussion which got heated, and I was hidden for the first time in my 10 years at DU. (And rightfully so, I am ashamed to say.) I had avoided commenting on the "gender war" threads up to that point because I knew it would make me so mad. Finally...I succumbed. It did not go well.

I was thinking, we have forums for 9-11 and guns and Israel/Palestine -- why not gender wars??? I was a genuine question.

At first, I looked for the "meta" forum and then remembered it was taken away. Somewhere in this thread someone suggested I pose this question in the "Ask the Admin" forum. I had forgotten about that one. That's where I should have posted this.

Looks like my idea has just perpetuated the problem, but my intentions were sincere.

Also, it did not seem as though it was dying down to me at 2:00 EST yesterday at all. I saw tons of gender threads when I started this discussion.

Anyway...It was just a suggestion.

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Can we PLEASE have a "gender forum" where all gender-based threads can go die? [View all] FourScore Feb 2014 OP

Ignore and trash features 1000words Feb 2014 #1

They work great TroglodyteScholar Feb 2014 #118

I don't understand the aversion. 1000words Feb 2014 #119

Exactly.... TroglodyteScholar Feb 2014 #122

It would turn into a meta HappyMe Feb 2014 #2

HoF would be a great alternative. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #3

What is HoF? n/t FourScore Feb 2014 #6

. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #8

Interestingly ... 1000words Feb 2014 #12

Oh my In_The_Wind Feb 2014 #32

Actually, that's what I thought HoF really meant the first time I saw it. Silent3 Feb 2014 #67

I thought it was Hall Of Fame, but then I would probably be in it Doctor_J Feb 2014 #97

I wonder ... 1000words Feb 2014 #102

A safe haven feminist forum that drives certain people here nuts. Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #18

lol! HappyMe Feb 2014 #117

Here's a thread with that question pintobean Feb 2014 #107

Why HoF, the Men's Group already has the gratuitous sexy thread. The SI cover thread could easily seaglass Feb 2014 #14

So what? HappyMe Feb 2014 #20

No shit. seaglass Feb 2014 #21

Okay then. HappyMe Feb 2014 #24

It's a no shit because your comment had nothing to do with what I posted and you didn't seaglass Feb 2014 #39

I dumped HOF in the trash can long ago. HappyMe Feb 2014 #40

I'm not sure why you keep saying these disjointed off-topic things to me but OK. seaglass Feb 2014 #41

I'm not sure what you are trying to say either. HappyMe Feb 2014 #45

Now I'm confused. Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #61

As am I. HappyMe Feb 2014 #73

Have to admit it was the strangest interaction I've ever had on DU. n/t seaglass Feb 2014 #78

Really? HappyMe Feb 2014 #81

It might be a tie. seaglass Feb 2014 #83

Are you suggesting I wear ties??!11 HappyMe Feb 2014 #85

See post #18 pintobean Feb 2014 #101

Bizarre comment pulled out of thin air. No one said they couldn't. MadrasT Feb 2014 #47

... HappyMe Feb 2014 #48

Why would you assume that a "sexy" thread would be pictures of women? OilemFirchen Feb 2014 #86

I'm not assuming anything. My comment was based on what exists. The Men's Group already seaglass Feb 2014 #88

Huh. HappyMe Feb 2014 #121

yep libodem Feb 2014 #75

+1 BuddhaGirl Feb 2014 #89

All Hell breaks loose libodem Feb 2014 #94

Well said. polly7 Feb 2014 #104

Me too libodem Feb 2014 #108

+1 Marr Feb 2014 #114

Agreed. Feral Child Feb 2014 #155

I can't help but note how some get so much attention kcr Feb 2014 #112

No shit. And here is a sub thread with only intent to diss and insult dyers, YET seabeyond Feb 2014 #120

No. the problem is. invading another group HappyMe Feb 2014 #125

That us so over the top bullshit. seabeyond Feb 2014 #127

That is your opinion. HappyMe Feb 2014 #129

except i did not start a subthread of insulting duers. you and others did. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #130

Of course, dear. HappyMe Feb 2014 #133

So, you just throw out a jab at hof for no particular reason? Seems like you are the problem seabeyond Feb 2014 #123

Thing is, rules isolating certain topics and prohibiting them in GD are routinely ignored. Lizzie Poppet Feb 2014 #4

Oh that is such a shame! Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #17

Post removed Post removed Feb 2014 #23

Most meta threads stick around as well. Vashta Nerada Feb 2014 #29

Good point. Lizzie Poppet Feb 2014 #35

Some of these issues are extremely important issues of our day etherealtruth Feb 2014 #77

I think there are treestar Feb 2014 #5

Not the way they are being handled. There is too much mud-slinging. FourScore Feb 2014 #9

Yes we need to get all contentious discussions out of GD. Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #19

Just as long as it never devolved into cats *or* puppies petronius Feb 2014 #50

Good point. Obviously we need GD-Cats, GD-Puppies, and GD-Ferrets. Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #51

If you have an issue, why did you stand by without saying anything when lumberjack started seabeyond Feb 2014 #124

Discussion would be good. HappyMe Feb 2014 #13

With you right there in the middle of em. JTFrog Feb 2014 #71

lol! HappyMe Feb 2014 #74

I am afraid that I am so sexy itsrobert Feb 2014 #7

Hmmm...I hadn't thought of that. n/t FourScore Feb 2014 #10

What about your shirt? HappyMe Feb 2014 #11

You're cracking me up, HappyMe. pacalo Feb 2014 #135

Itsrobert, the walking, talking sexy rumpus. No forum could contain you. Squinch Feb 2014 #27

That's not a natural rumpus Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #56

Ain't photoshopped. Itsrobert likes to wear his rumpus in the front... pacalo Feb 2014 #136

Well thank god there's a fire extinguisher Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #137

No kidding! pacalo Feb 2014 #139

As other have advised: liberal use of the trash can function during these outbreaks. LiberalAndProud Feb 2014 #15

Can we please have a "Can We Please Have" forum where all the Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #16

I envision a DU where each poster has their own forum to deal with the issues el_bryanto Feb 2014 #22

I think we should go to ATA with this RIGHT FUCKING NOW!!!!1!! Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #25

I love this thread... Squinch Feb 2014 #30

And it took 25 posts to come to that conclusion? Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #66

Back in the old DU it would have been post #2. Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #68

I think that's how the break up of Yugoslavia ended Capt. Obvious Feb 2014 #144

You win the thread! (nt) LostOne4Ever Feb 2014 #57

Right now I have a forum called "Trash Can" where I put them all. Iggo Feb 2014 #26

Fuck that. NCTraveler Feb 2014 #28

Please elaborate. What kind of post makes one an "enemy of women"? Comrade Grumpy Feb 2014 #36

I think you can find one or two of them without my help. NCTraveler Feb 2014 #37

Any poster who thinks that all gender related posts should be sent to the dungeon is a candidate. n/ pnwmom Feb 2014 #91

It's the dismissiveness that's telling. And people need to be called on it, no argument from me. nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #156

Make liberal use of the "trash thread" option. Vashta Nerada Feb 2014 #31

There are already such forums and groups for those Cleita Feb 2014 #33

Sounds like Humphrey-Hawkins for DU jurors BeyondGeography Feb 2014 #34

We need a Fight Club forum... TreasonousBastard Feb 2014 #38

We had one. They took it away. Now this is where silly goes to die. Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #52

Meta had several fatal flaws... TreasonousBastard Feb 2014 #141

You may be the first person to ever utter the phrase Capt. Obvious Feb 2014 #147

GenderCratic UnderWar! Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #42

GenderCraptic Underwear? Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #53

Metaspastic Craptastic Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #55

I have nothing to add 1000words Feb 2014 #58

Just remember Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #59

Youve been warrened about that before. Your post is unWarrented. Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #60

Darn ... now, I'm surrounded. 1000words Feb 2014 #62

Don't mention underwear. HappyMe Feb 2014 #84

Want to cause GD to meltdown into a lava hot puddle of outrage? Post a magazine with 3 women in Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #109

Do it. HappyMe Feb 2014 #115

It seems I'm dickish, but cute. Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #134

Well shit... opiate69 Feb 2014 #132

Someone did the same thing to me recently with Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #140

I would gladly offer this thread as the first to go in the "gender forum". n/t FourScore Feb 2014 #43

As said above, ignore and trash nadinbrzezinski Feb 2014 #44

No. Texasgal Feb 2014 #46

No. Sweeping sexism under the rug is not the answer any more Skidmore Feb 2014 #49

You feel what's been occurring ... 1000words Feb 2014 #54

There have been some comments that have been very insightful. Skidmore Feb 2014 #72

Dang, another gender thread to hide Coyotl Feb 2014 #63

It would be a waste of forum space. NutmegYankee Feb 2014 #64

K&R for the interesting mix of great humor and people going right off the rails, Warren Stupidity Feb 2014 #65

Doesn't this post belong in the Complaint Forum? idendoit Feb 2014 #69

I Gotta Feeling... RiffRandell Feb 2014 #70

If you're sick of the "gender wars" in GD, complain in the right place. Gormy Cuss Feb 2014 #76

Ah! Good idea. Thanks Gormy Cuss. n/t FourScore Feb 2014 #79

WHY? Are gender bias's not as important as racial ones? VanillaRhapsody Feb 2014 #80

It would be nice, and K&R, but, alas, too many people are vested in acting like children TransitJohn Feb 2014 #82

Are you saying that when women want to discuss gender related issues they're acting like children? pnwmom Feb 2014 #92

Jesus Christ. TransitJohn Feb 2014 #98

First you agreed that there should be a separate forum where all OP's related to gender issues pnwmom Feb 2014 #158

No TransitJohn Feb 2014 #159

Why is it "acting like children" for women to question why a T & A photo lands on the front page pnwmom Feb 2014 #160

No, but MRA responses to feminists are often quite childish. Strawmen, ad hominems, etc. etc. nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #157

This message was self-deleted by its author CFLDem Feb 2014 #87

Oh yes! We can't have women playing the gender card! pnwmom Feb 2014 #93

This message was self-deleted by its author CFLDem Feb 2014 #96

Disgusting. nt sufrommich Feb 2014 #100

I don't even know what he said, but... Iggo Feb 2014 #105

I wonder if you understand the historical significance sufrommich Feb 2014 #99

Harpies? Ya perusing this thread and reading the insults to us women... We are so friggin seabeyond Feb 2014 #126

Nope CFLDem Feb 2014 #142

and yet, there it is. posted by a woman. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #149

Oh right. Because we passed the Equal Rights Amendment decades ago and women are fully equal pnwmom Feb 2014 #90

Rec!! Doctor_J Feb 2014 #95

"Die, Gender Threads, Die!" Coming to your multi-plex soon! WinkyDink Feb 2014 #103

Maybe if everyone who posts shitty threads would get food poisoning... shenmue Feb 2014 #106

Okay. HappyMe Feb 2014 #116

Great idea. elfin Feb 2014 #110

Some of the discussion on gender war threads is really interesting! Vattel Feb 2014 #111

You are not alone in this wish. Marr Feb 2014 #113

Yup. HappyMe Feb 2014 #128

why did you even start this thread. all day it has died down. why would you start this thread seabeyond Feb 2014 #131

No. That's not who I am. I really wanted a solution. FourScore Feb 2014 #145

fourscore. thank you. thank you for taking the time to explain to me where you are coming from seabeyond Feb 2014 #146

this: if women dare to fight back, they are the ones to blame. and this: Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #148

... CFLDem Feb 2014 #150

have fun ... here Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #151

Golly gee whiz CFLDem Feb 2014 #153

This message was self-deleted by its author Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #154

Don't we have six, not counting LGBT and abuse survivors? (nt) Recursion Feb 2014 #138

We clearly need a 7th titled CFLDem Feb 2014 #143

DU has this great function called "Hide Thread." CrispyQ Feb 2014 #152