I came to the realization that my sister doesn't like my children.

[YarnAddict]

14. Been there, done that

The problem isn't between your sister and your daughters; the problem is between you and your sister. Or possibly even between your mother and your aunt!

My mother fought the problems of her own childhood through my sister and me our entire lives! She treated my sister the way she wished her own mother had treated her. As the older sister, she identified me with her own older sister--and made every effort to cut me out of the loop whenever she could--to the point that her living will specified that my sister and pastor would make all end-of-life decisions for her!

My sister was so mean to me for many years, because she was never told that it was wrong to say demeaning or cutting things to me; that behavior was treated as "normal sister stuff." My sister then expected that the same things were going to be accepted between her daughter and my son. But I was there to put a stop to it. I never had anyone to stand up for me, but my children had me. I put my foot down and let it be known that my children had just as much value as hers.

It also helped that we moved out of state when they were quite young.

You did the right thing. Hope you can feel okay about cutting a close family member out of your life.