I came to the realization that my sister doesn't like my children.

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55. She sounds like a sociopath - no empathy, sympathy, etc.

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Or it could be narcissism. From my reading, that all are similar antisocial/disassociative conditions. A cure might be questionable, but treatment is possible. However, that person would have to acknowledge a problem.

I have a similar sister, who could give a shit about any of my kids. The world revolves around her. Hasn't visited us in well over a decade. Doesn't attend any birthday parties or really anything we host. But if we don't invite her or people don't show up to her events, we/they are demons. She criticizes everything we do and frequently blames me for why my parents supposedly favor me over her (this isn't true - she just pisses them off so much that they have a hard time dealing with her). She refused to attend out wedding, but blamed us for not inviting her. She drives up to Chicago to go to some Cub fan event with her husband and asks me for restaurant recommendations, but doesn't even bother to ask if we want to meet up for lunch. They can't attend family functions b/c they are afraid to drive on the highways, yet drove past our house about 20 times to go to ballgames. Of course we do live all of 5 miles away from Wrigley Field and the Loop, so understandable, right? I could go on and on.

It used to royally piss me off and I've written her off multiple times. I now just go through the motions of being civil and no longer fighting... for the sole purpose of not upsetting my parents.

I understand your anger, frustration, pain, etc. it took me a long time to come to terms with it, and accept the fact that my own sibling doesn't care about me or my family. I have the feeling that when my parents are gone, I may never see her again. What can you do though?

Your sister is an asshole and fully deserves to be written off. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. No one deserves that kind of callousness, particularly from a family member.