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jeff47

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20. It's about consent.

Reply to hootinholler (Original post)

Thu Feb 20, 2014, 01:28 AM

Feb 2014

The thing is that I have more than a few friends in this community and I find some of the things being stated about gender roles in terms of absolutes shocking.

It's about consent.

If an adult consents to being abused, unusual sex acts, or following "Leave it to Beaver" gender roles, they are free to do so.

But that doesn't mean those things can be applied to everyone. Because not everyone consents.

In other words, objectifying a woman who wants to be objectified as her personal kink is fine. Objectifying all women is not. Because not all of them consent to that. And doing so in a public space (like DU) is objectifying all women.

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How big is our tent here? [View all] hootinholler Feb 2014 OP

TMI nt geek tragedy Feb 2014 #1

He decided to share with us personal info Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #30

It's not the tent 1000words Feb 2014 #2

I say let your freak flag fly baby. liberal_at_heart Feb 2014 #3

Some of us PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #5

very good point. I do not have a strong sex drive, but I still consider liberal_at_heart Feb 2014 #9

Tent or Dutch oven? bettyellen Feb 2014 #4

Whichever you prefer hootinholler Feb 2014 #7

Thank You... Jesus Malverde Feb 2014 #6

Thank you! hootinholler Feb 2014 #8

And which one Is you again? Im the one in the middle.... Drew Richards Feb 2014 #10

I would be Phat Phreddy hootinholler Feb 2014 #11

WOOT! I know but thank you for playing along :) Drew Richards Feb 2014 #12

I agree with what was said upthread... one_voice Feb 2014 #13

Hope It Applies... It Involves Tribalism... And A Way To Divide Us... But My Attitude Is... WillyT Feb 2014 #14

If everyone's a consenting adult, it's your business, not mine. Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #15

Define your own dignity and, live your life accordingly. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #16

Ah but this post isn't about my bedroom hootinholler Feb 2014 #21

What part of create your own dignity did you Not understand ? Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #23

The part where it's ok for others hootinholler Feb 2014 #25

Implied consent in your reply below. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #28

As long as you don't want to be served tea it's all good. Kablooie Feb 2014 #17

too big imo. PowerToThePeople Feb 2014 #18

It's escaped your notice, but tolerance for anything, except Riech-Wing nuttery of course, Egalitarian Thug Feb 2014 #19

It's about consent. jeff47 Feb 2014 #20

I agree it's about consent, it's always about consent hootinholler Feb 2014 #22

You aren't just objectifying the model. jeff47 Feb 2014 #27

+1 Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #29

I'll have to think about the notion of spreading objectivism by proxy hootinholler Feb 2014 #33

"Spread" is probably not quite the right word. jeff47 Feb 2014 #34

Well, if we are all in the tent together, I'm sure SOMEBODY snooper2 Feb 2014 #24

I'm sure unionists and corporatists can get along.... L0oniX Feb 2014 #26

As long as one is not a Pub or support Pub policies I say let your freak flag fly. wocaonimabi Feb 2014 #31

It is like those religious nuts in Kansas that think their religions freedom is being infringe by RC Feb 2014 #32

I have a friend who liked to wear a collar and leash to a certain bar. bunnies Feb 2014 #35