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MrModerate

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67. The concept of 'common' comes from the OP . . .

Thu Feb 20, 2014, 01:33 AM

Feb 2014

Specifically the graphic. Why create a poster, with a message, unless there's a 'common' problem to be addressed? The clear implication is that the offensive statements are made routinely, in every walk of life, and need to be militated against.

In my experience (limited to me, of course) that's not so. The group of people I travel with would find these questions offensive or at least obnoxious, regardless of who they were being asked of.

So I regard the whole concept of the poster to be overblown.

Your inability to parse teenage slang is another issue entirely and something you'll have to deal with on your own time.

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Excellent. k&r. sufrommich Feb 2014 #2

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Here's another one.......... thelordofhell Feb 2014 #4

Thanks, I'm going to use that one! LuvNewcastle Feb 2014 #5

One of my best friends is gay - dipsydoodle Feb 2014 #6

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HA! MynameisBlarney Feb 2014 #8

I've used that also. SheilaT Feb 2014 #9

Yeah, I've said that too Fumesucker Feb 2014 #16

K&R nt alp227 Feb 2014 #10

Actually, someone once did say to me... The_Commonist Feb 2014 #12

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The "how do you have sex" one RBStevens Feb 2014 #15

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Hi RBStevens! Welcome! Lisa0825 Feb 2014 #46

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My BFF gal-pal wearing my favorite shirt! Rhythm Feb 2014 #44

I once worked at a law office where I had an older gay secretary The Second Stone Feb 2014 #18

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"why do you hate women?" directed at a female, "men" if male. uppityperson Feb 2014 #22

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I didn't do the picture.. one_voice Feb 2014 #34

"Some of my best friends are straight and they know I don't believe in their lifestyle choices." Happyhippychick Feb 2014 #32

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Kick & recommended. William769 Feb 2014 #35

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"What a waste" Laughing Mirror Feb 2014 #64

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K&R sheshe2 Feb 2014 #45

This message was self-deleted by its author Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #47

, blkmusclmachine Feb 2014 #48

Changing laws will help a lot. Not a cure, but a big help. merrily Feb 2014 #49

Anyone who thinks heterosexuals commonly say things like that . . . MrModerate Feb 2014 #50

Where did you see the word "commonly?" Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #51

The concept of 'common' comes from the OP . . . MrModerate Feb 2014 #67

The "concept" is something YOU brought up. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #68

Yes, I came up with the notion of some things being more 'common' . . . MrModerate Feb 2014 #70

Your condescension has been noted. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #72

And your embrace of 'resentment entitlement' is very obvious. MrModerate Feb 2014 #74

You are in need of some edification, I fear. MADem Feb 2014 #53

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Wanda Sykes disagrees Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #54

How did the meaning of "That's so gay" change? merrily Feb 2014 #55

It no longer has anything to do with sexuality n/t MrModerate Feb 2014 #71

How do you know what people who say it have in mind? merrily Feb 2014 #73

Observation. n/t MrModerate Feb 2014 #75

Less observation, and more simply interpretation. LanternWaste Feb 2014 #76

You really believe that when teenagers say "that's so gay . . ." MrModerate Feb 2014 #77

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K & R In_The_Wind Feb 2014 #57

Brilliant Borchkins Feb 2014 #58

I've been asked three of those and I'm hetero. 1awake Feb 2014 #59

K&R myrna minx Feb 2014 #61

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I won't say never... Omnith Feb 2014 #65

This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Feb 2014 #78

Me too. dilby Feb 2014 #79

Often? Was it serious or in jest? What about the other questions? Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #80

This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Feb 2014 #81

Well, that was inappropriate. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #82

This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Feb 2014 #83

That someone said "How do you know you aren't gay if you haven't tried it." Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #84

This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Feb 2014 #85

That is certainly a good way to see it. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #86