So I have a day off tomorrow and it's going to be 75. Can I wear my swim suit?

[KitSileya]

103. Everyday sexism

Katy 2013-11-10 23:50
I work in a tearoom. The other day an old man and his wife came in. As the wife was on the other side of the room, looking at the cake trolley, the husband asked me "what have you got to offer me today then?" In the moment I took to pause and think about the menu, he answered his own question with "sex?" I always thought I'd respond aggressively in a situation like that, but I was too flustered and embarrassed for the wife, so said nothing.


#55031. 2013-11-10 22:23
Me, a 19 year old girl and my female friend were walking down the street in the evening, in the dark.. A group of 30-40 year old men shouted "shall we make two girls feel really uncomfortable?" and proceeded to shout rape at the top of their voices repeatedly and howling with laughter. This not only is extremely sexist and shows the pleasure men get from feeling like they are in control.. But it also shows the disregard they have for such a serious horrible act that millions of people have suffered from. Absolutely disgraceful..


#55030J 2013-11-10 20:24
Walking home from the train station along dead quiet streets and a man going past says 'hello, good morning' (this was at 7pm!) and then goes 'you are so sexy', despite me being all wrapped up in a jumper, jeans, and coat. After walking away thinking nothing of it, I realised he was now following me. Panicked and almost ran into a restaurant to feel safe. Could not have felt better the minute I arrived home.


#55029aily 2013-11-10 19:17
i was walking home from college and had a pencil thrown at me accompanied by the term of endearment "slut" from a passing car full of teenage boys.


#55028Marissa 2013-11-10 18:22
A guy volunteered to walk me home after a party. As we walked, he kept using the word "faggot" which grossed me out. And then when we finally got to my house, he wanted to hug me goodbye, during which he grabbed my ass with both hands and pulled me toward him. I felt so violated.


#55027elle 2013-11-10 14:23
When I was about 13/14 I was volunteering in a charity shop, working at the till, and an elderly man approached me with a pair of binoculars and said "these would be great for standing outside you room at night". I was horrified but my co-worker (also an older man), instead of sticking up for me, laughed. I felt so embarrassed and I went to hide in the back of the shop, but because my co-worker hadn't stood up for me I thought it was my fault for not being able to take a joke


#55026P 2013-11-10 13:58
Last night I was waiting in line to order a drink at a bar (it was probably only around 10.00pm so it was quite early) there was a guy stood next to me. He kept bumping into me on purpose and I said nothing- at the time I didn't think too much about it. But, then he started using the back of one of his hands to rub against one of my breasts. I could see him winking. Again I said nothing. I was so angry instead of making it clear that, that kind of behaviour is completely inappropriate I pathetically ordered a double vodka and coke and then ran back to my friend. I think what was worse was seeing his friends smirking and eyeing me up and down as I was walking away with my drink. At that moment I felt uncomfortable and very unattractive. Next time an incident occurs like that again I hope I have the confidence to stand up for myself and say no. Unfortunately, too many of us don't react because we fear that no one will believe us or take the incident seriously.


#55025Sophia 2013-11-10 13:30
On the tube a man around 40 starts chatting up two 16 year old girls. One of them turns round and asks him "Are you too insecure to chat up women your own age?" Fantastic response.


#55024Edith 2013-11-10 12:03
I'm an older woman in her 50's. When I went to art college back in the 80's. I was laughed at and put down because I didn't know how to use a hammer properly. In one tutorial my art was described as decorative and therefore dismissed. I was told by one tutor, with whom I was sharing a taxi with that he'd 'fuck' me if I did not have a skin disease. As Germane Greer says...Women just don't realise how much men hate them. At this age you have the experience of realising that is often the case. So my advice is to always visualise men in short trousers to guard your good self and to remember they do not experience the world as you do. So often they are clueless and desensitised.


#55023SK 2013-11-10 10:46
While working as a kitchen hand, I had the sexist male waiter hitting on me and telling me his dick inside me would make me more relaxed. When I retaliated he would have to find it first, he threatened to remove my nipples with a pair of pliers and then made the motion in the direction of my chest. The head chef threw him out for making me angry and disrupting the kitchen.


#55022R.H. 2013-11-10 10:25
I went to a meeting because I was concerned about workplace bullying and in an attempt to make me feel better the manager gave an example where one of her collages makes fairly derogatory comments about women on a regular basis but she just 'laughs it off because that's the way he is'. The shocking part is people thought I was overreacting by being offended by this.


#55021Melanie 2013-11-10 10:15
a father jeered on his 8 year old son to call me 'sexy' on public transport. I was shocked and said that i didn't think it was appropriate. He thought it was funny and told me to lighten up. 'what was I going to do when his son was older and had more things to say'

Anyone who thinks that we object to the wearing of swimsuits and not to how those women in swimsuits are treated, really have a problem with their reading comprehension.