I'm against the gender wars

[JTFrog]

16. W.T.F.

What may or may not appear hostile to you is not the issue here. IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU. You admit that you have never encountered anything like I and many other women have in our lifetimes, so how would you have any idea what other women find hostile? Why instead do you portray the vocal feminists here as overly sensitive and prudish? The only reason I can imagine is that you have never walked in their shoes. Because you were the bad ass woman who never took shit from anyone and had "back up", you make it sound like anyone who wasn't able to do so is/was just too sensitive and weak willed. Well, I'll tell you a little about my personal life. I was raped by my father when I was 8 years old. I probably shouldn't have believed that he would really kill me if I told anyone. I mean being punched in the face and strangled by that man surely didn't reinforce that fear. And I probably should have starting working out much younger in life so that I could fend off the two men who crawled in my bedroom window when I was twelve and put a gun to my head while raping me. After they left, I found my mom passed out in the garbage with a needle sticking out of her arm. So, yeah that was my "back up". Needless to say, I suffered some severe emotional trauma on top of the physical shit that happened to me. And that's just the shit that happened before I became a teenager. People used to tell me how "strong" I was to have survived and overcome the things I have in my life. I wasn't strong. I was terrified and suffered from extreme depression and pstd until I was in my mid 30's. To ME, rape culture is very real. It has taken it's toll on me and I would really love to change things for my daughter and granddaughter. So when I see people here talk about redefining rape and trying to blur the lines of consent I get outraged. When I see women reduced to nothing more than objects, I get outraged. That reduction is VERY harmful and hostile not only to those who have walked in my shoes, but even to those who have never had to deal with it. A lot of women don't have to deal with it until it happens to them. And that's what we want to change. Not what you wear to the beach.

FFS.