This is NOT about the evils of straight, white, men, BUT, it is about the reality of one gay man.

[The Straight Story]

5. On the cards thing

Yeah, I notice those things as well. I have several gay friends and one of them has been in a relationship forever and the best I could do is go to the 'cards for my husband' section. Small towns have even less available across the board for cards.

I would add though that stores go by the numbers as to what they are choosing to carry (everything takes up space and resources). Being in a mid sized town in Oklahoma percent wise they might not see it as important enough to bother with (try looking for anything bar mitzvah related up in amish country where I used to live....). And don't get me started on being a D&D player trying to find gaming things in some towns - football and soccer? Sure.


As far as:

"There have been threads in which SWM are feeling "under attack." In some cases, I can understand why, in others, not so much. I hated diversity programs that focused solely on the 'faults' of straight, white, Christian, able-bodied men."

I think most rational people get what is being said. The 'but' here is that most of us have studied history and no matter the race, religion, etc people in power suck and do terrible things to others. They also treat people more like themselves better than they do other people. This is not a problem only with white people.

When someone says 'hey you have some privilege someone else doesn't ' I often wonder what it is they are asking to do about it. Recognize it? Ok. That is easy. I do that all time with homeless folks, the poor (like myself), disabled, and so on . Change it? I vote for progressives because they represent a better cross section of America (among may other reasons of course). Loads and loads of people have some better position in life in ways that I don't.

No one ever really says what they want straight white men to do. Feel bad about it? Tell people they are sorry they were born that way. Complain about it with them? Don't dare mention the positives other people have going of course. Oh, and you can never say you are a victim because some folks see you at the top of everything because of your race and orientation. No, you can't be a victim of anything but you sure can be an oppressor on everything - you will get blamed based on your race even if you never have done a thing.

Everyone in the US is more privileged than many other countries. We let little kids in Asian countries make our shoes, virtual slave labor the world over is fueled by our love for electronics, brand name fashions, etc. That is driven by every race, sex, and gender in the US.

Everyone has some privilege.