Well written.
It's amazing the points one can get across when you just write what you know and not screw around with some silly ass analogy that's nothing but patronizing.
Anywho, that's my little rant.
I feel you. That's a completely legitimate and discouraging (for lack of a better word) thought process.
On your situation if I may play captain obvious, why not buy online? If there is not just an online store or maker avail, wait a minute because I have a great business idea 
But I think in all fairness, be patient. If you can drive to Tulsa to get such a card in 2014, then I gotta believe that is progress and your town is not far behind. The supply will follow because the demand is growing everyday.
On being a privileged SWM
it's not that we don't know the deck plays easier to us it's the perception that we don't is what so infuriating for starters. For instance. I'm from a mid-size city in north Florida. Not exactly a liberal bastion. Our little block had maybe 20 houses on it. Two of them had gay couples. This is the 1980's and 90's mind you and while of course everyone was cool with it. (And I truly mean that) there was of course conversation about "those guys" and their "lifestyle".
But this is the thing. Those conversations were from our parents who grew when no men or women (at least very few) could own houses and live in the open among families. But for us kids, it's just the way life was and this was that house no different from the next house. And little by little that's how you get to buy a gay anniversary card in Tulsa in 2014.
Side notes - both of those houses were my direct neighbors one side and one across. The one next to me. One fellow died from AIDS. That was difficult for us kids to really grasp. Our parents put aside their histories and for the betterment of their children, they taught us that it was not because of their lifestyle.
Looking back, we were very fortunate. Other kids not so much. But our parents had grown to like their neighbors even though they had their little gossip sessions. Nobody's perfect.
So my point is, we SWM have all kinds of histories and experiences that are much closer to your realities and those of other minorities than many think. I mean we do live in this country too, many of us with our eyes wide open.
Side side note, when my widower neighbor moved away, a very nice lesbian couple bought the house and grew quite close to our family. Sadly they broke up in the end, but the lady who stayed took very good care of my mother after my father passed away. Checking on her and such when I couldn't be there. I was very grateful to her for that.
Thanks for the post and I hope my story follows the spirit of your OP.
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