This is NOT about the evils of straight, white, men, BUT, it is about the reality of one gay man.

[frazzled]

12. I'm not understanding something

First of all, Happy Anniversary, and I really mean that.

But I'm confused, sorta. You refer in your first line to SWMs here feeling under attack. (I'm not sure that's entirely accurate: who ever said they were all S or W, but that's beside the point.) Then you go on to try to tell us how difficult it is to find a greeting card that represents gay men.

Whoa: let's backtrack. One of the biggest points of contention in the so-called "gender wars" here—and the reason the males were feeling under attack—was response to the posting of images here of idealized, sexualized women: images that remind female posters that (as you put it) they are not "real" people or valuable citizens. Here's what I'm saying: we women can't find a SINGLE image in the popular media of someone who represents us, who looks like us ... whether we are young women, older women, straight or gay women, white or black women.

And yet you can't find an appropriate anniversary card? I really hate to say it this way, but how did this become about you? And why are you delivering your message to the men on this board? Why isn't this a post about solidarity with women? Because, as a gay man, you should understand how it feels to be unrepresented or misrepresented in the culture. But, sadly, this lesson does not seem to extend to others who are underrepresented or misrepresented in the culture.

I'm happy for your anniversary, but I'm sad you seem to have missed the point.