This is NOT about the evils of straight, white, men, BUT, it is about the reality of one gay man.

[Behind the Aegis]

17. I don't understand the accusatory nature of your post.

But I'm confused, sorta. You refer in your first line to SWMs here feeling under attack. (I'm not sure that's entirely accurate: who ever said they were all S or W, but that's beside the point.) Then you go on to try to tell us how difficult it is to find a greeting card that represents gay men.

What I actually wrote was, "There have been threads in which SWM are feeling "under attack." In some cases, I can understand why, in others, not so much." Simply go into a number of threads about gays or AA in the past day, and you will clearly see, there are those posters who identify as either male or white or both and feel "attacked."

This is not about the so-called gender wars, but what is sounds like is that you have an issue with gays. If I don't know my place, then I should just shut up.

"And yet you can't find an appropriate anniversary card? I really hate to say it this way, but how did this become about you? And why are you delivering your message to the men on this board? Why isn't this a post about solidarity with women? Because, as a gay man, you should understand how it feels to be unrepresented or misrepresented in the culture. But, sadly, this lesson does not seem to extend to others who are underrepresented or misrepresented in the culture. "

It became about me because this happened to me! My message isn't to just men on this board, how can you not see that? Why in the hell would this be a post in solidarity with women?! It is about sexual orientation, not gender. This is MY experience, why am I not entitled to it?

It is you have seemed to missed the point. Thank you for your "well wishes" to my non-State sanctioned relationship.