This is NOT about the evils of straight, white, men, BUT, it is about the reality of one gay man.

[jeff47]

70. You can't fix society on any sort of timetable.

So it's not something you are supposed to fix directly, because you alone can't fix it.

What you can do is realize that your life isn't like someone else's. For example, the topic at hand.

It would be really easy to just say "Go to Amazon, they've got hundreds of cards. Here's a link." But that isn't what the story's really about. It's about the fact that not finding the card emphasizes the "otherness". That this one incident really isn't a big deal, but it's yet another small incident on top of a giant pile of small incidents. That just do not stop piling up.

So while this incident is "not a big deal", all the incidents together are a big deal. That can lead to things like saying "damn straight people!" when venting about it. Which can then lead to those straight people saying "Hey!!! It wasn't me!!!". And the conversation goes downhill from there. But they were just venting, and did not literally mean all straight people.

In other words, be compassionate. If they're venting, let them instead of worrying about defending yourself.

Society will fix itself as more and more people understand their privilege.