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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Ms. Toad
(34,003 posts)"The post was hidden, but for far too long the hosts refused to do anything about the anti-lesbian bigotry of that post in a forum which should have been a safe space for me - and some of the hosts even joined in the pile-on. "
That does not say the hosts did nothing, ever. It accurately says they refused to act for far too long. While "forever" is also far too long, the normal connotation to that phrase is that the hosts acted, but waited too long to act. 12 days is far too long, when such blocks are normally instantaneous in that group.
Please stop trying to portray me as an unreasonable person who expected you to stop caring for your father and tend to the LGBT group. I have never even suggested that.
While I realize you were not in a position to act at that time, you are not the only host. The timing of your father's death does not excuse the behavior of the hosts (and other members of the group) who were not caring for your father - or change the atmosphere which that behavior reinforced.
And - back to the reason I raised this encounter - the assertion was being made in this thread that gays don't parade this stuff where it makes others uncomfortable. An example of a recent thread was given where it apparently wasn't true - and you responded, essentially, that it was OK because it was in the LGBT group. I did not raise the issue in this thread - nor did I drag whether it was acceptable within the LGBT group into this discussion. But once that question is on the table, I am not going to be silent about my own concerns about such threads within the LGBT group, how I was treated when I raised those concerns, or why I am no longer an active participant there. Particularly since the concerns are very similar, and the reaction there is such a close echo to the discussion going on currently in GD.