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In reply to the discussion: It is not about the swimsuit issue it is about basic respect for women [View all]rrneck
(17,671 posts)Yep. That's right. Birthday posts. It doesn't have anything to do with age but the death of a loved one. It's a long story for a post, but my birthday and especially having people sing happy birthday in a restaurant is very painful for me. It still hurts after thirty years. It damaged me permanently and has cost me tremendously since. I've suffered near crippling depression because of it. Nobody knows when my birthday is because I don't want to be reminded of it and the last thing I want is cards and, dog forbid, surprise parties. Everybody loves fucking birthdays but me.
So you know what I do about it? I simply trash the thread. If the knowledge that somebody is talking about birthdays on an internet chat board bothers me that much the best thing for me to do is turn off the computer and do something else. Because this is the internet and I can't demand others adjust their behavior to satisfy my personal predilections.