I'm The Duke University Freshman Porn Star And For The First Time I'm Telling The Story In My Words

[RainDog]

145. It's a basic misunderstanding of the idea of patriarchy

imo, among too many.

The origins of monogamy are not in mutual love. The origin is monogamy for females, only, with males free to purchase sex from others, just as they purchase sexual exclusivity with one women who will be the conduit, in this line of thinking, to transfer his property to his heirs. It's all about being able to confirm paternity.

That's marriage. It wasn't about being in love most of the time, either. It was about consolidating property between families. The poor, of course, could marry, but no one cared what they did because there was no real consequence, in terms of property.

The reality is humans, both male and female, are not monogamous unless they chose to be - and some fail when they think they've made that choice. Others don't. Or, more realistically, they use something like porn as a substitute for an actual relationship. Or they read a romance novel. Sometimes couples watch other couples having romantic relationships or purely sexual ones in movies. People often don't appreciate that they are, in fact, participating in a fantasy when they watch a rom-com and those women are having sex with another man through the female actor surrogate.

Women do not have a lower sex drive than males. In the past, women were considered the ravenously sexual beasts and men were the restrained ones about sex. That wasn't true either. Both males and females have libidos that exist on a scale, not based upon gender, but based upon individuals - and not just their genetic chemistry, but their environmental situations too.

But people conflate what they want to believe with what is, and so it goes, on and on.