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134. Echoing Pasadena Trudy - contact SS right away!

Wed Feb 26, 2014, 01:16 PM

Feb 2014

If he was receiving benefits that is. They will just keep sending the checks (or doing direct deposit) and if any of those are cashed you have to pay it back. It can be a real nightmare and that's the last thing you need.

I'm sorry that you had to find him suddenly like that.

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I found my Dad dead this morning [View all] RedRocco Feb 2014 OP

i am so sorry. it is such a shock. seabeyond Feb 2014 #1

My condolences... Ohio Joe Feb 2014 #2

so sorry treestar Feb 2014 #3

I'm so sorry My Good Babushka Feb 2014 #4

I'm so sorry. ananda Feb 2014 #5

I'm so sorry to hear this, RedRocco deutsey Feb 2014 #6

I am so sorry sharp_stick Feb 2014 #7

I'm so sorry for your loss LiberalEsto Feb 2014 #8

yikes.. I'm so sorry Ichingcarpenter Feb 2014 #9

Very sorry for your loss gwheezie Feb 2014 #10

I'm so sorry. hobbit709 Feb 2014 #11

Holy shit! PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #12

That's rough - hang in there. nt el_bryanto Feb 2014 #13

So sorry. Sending thoughts and prayers for both you and your father. woodsprite Feb 2014 #14

Aw geez - I'm very sorry to hear this. cyberswede Feb 2014 #15

I'm not really sure how I feel TBH RedRocco Feb 2014 #16

It's okay PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #24

I think it is going to take a little while RedRocco Feb 2014 #38

Start here...sorry for your loss... Lochloosa Feb 2014 #45

Contact the VA PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #48

RedRocco, enlightenment Feb 2014 #57

thanks for the links guys RedRocco Feb 2014 #67

when my dad passed last year, eShirl Feb 2014 #76

I know... PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #82

Make lists, write things down. Do you have siblings? Other folks who need to be notified? Both of japple Feb 2014 #92

no siblings, I sent my Mom (who I haven't talked with since '98) a message on FaceBook n/t RedRocco Feb 2014 #98

So sorry for your loss, especially the shock to you. No Vested Interest Feb 2014 #239

It is surreal. Everything is different and everything goes on the same. Glad you have support and uppityperson Feb 2014 #122

I'm so sorry for your loss! About the benefits.... ColesCountyDem Feb 2014 #209

That's how it is. kag Feb 2014 #277

You should contact Casualty Assistance at your nearest military post. Solly Mack Feb 2014 #96

I feel your pain Chaco Dundee Feb 2014 #107

Good Recommendations here........... mrmpa Feb 2014 #127

Echoing Pasadena Trudy - contact SS right away! RBStevens Feb 2014 #134

So sorry, Red, for you to have to find your father like that. Take comfort Nay Feb 2014 #138

Respect, RedRocco. Feral Child Feb 2014 #139

Call the VA and check with Social Services rbrnmw Feb 2014 #179

Also call your local American Legion post. Common Sense Party Feb 2014 #185

Contact your local funeral home abbeyco Feb 2014 #244

Good advice, Trudy. Feral Child Feb 2014 #125

Truer words were seldom spoken. We all mark, and deal with, departures in our own ways. calimary Feb 2014 #229

You don't have to be sure of your feelings, and you don't have to have the "right" ones. msanthrope Feb 2014 #36

You feel the way you feel. jeff47 Feb 2014 #72

I'm sorry you had to find him the way you did, I'm sure giftedgirl77 Feb 2014 #118

be good to yourself, RedRocco Skittles Feb 2014 #211

Crap. I'm so sorry for your loss. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #17

OMG so sorry! MoonRiver Feb 2014 #18

I'm so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you today. MineralMan Feb 2014 #19

I'm so sorry for you loss warrior1 Feb 2014 #20

Very sorry to hear that.... NT Adrahil Feb 2014 #21

Very sorry. That has got to be hard. jwirr Feb 2014 #22

Oh, no ... I'm so sorry, RedRocco polly7 Feb 2014 #23

FUCK!!! that is horrible bigdarryl Feb 2014 #25

What a horrible shock The Blue Flower Feb 2014 #26

I'm very sorry for your loss. opiate69 Feb 2014 #27

My condolences. MerryBlooms Feb 2014 #28

I am so very sorry, RedRocco. I will be thinking of you and your Dad today, and I hope msanthrope Feb 2014 #29

I'm sorry for your loss. hedgehog Feb 2014 #30

So sorry to hear this news. aikoaiko Feb 2014 #31

May Peace be with you at this difficult time. nt xchrom Feb 2014 #32

Very sorry to here that RR. NaturalHigh Feb 2014 #33

How upsetting for you. You must be in shock. MADem Feb 2014 #34

Oh no! I'm so very sorry, RedRocco. City Lights Feb 2014 #35

What a shock! Mz Pip Feb 2014 #37

Deepest sympathy malaise Feb 2014 #39

My condolences to you and your family on your loss. n/t oneshooter Feb 2014 #40

I'm sorry to hear this happened. RKP5637 Feb 2014 #41

What a terrible shock. I'm so sorry. myrna minx Feb 2014 #42

No words. Brigid Feb 2014 #43

My deepest condolences. Jackpine Radical Feb 2014 #44

Sounds like maybe wasn't an old man . . . fadedrose Feb 2014 #46

He was 72 RedRocco Feb 2014 #70

You were a good son to help him and to give him glinda Feb 2014 #190

You did right by him. Chorophyll Feb 2014 #202

I pray he died fulfilled uponit7771 Feb 2014 #231

Totally agree with Fadedrose Iwillnevergiveup Feb 2014 #232

Oh my goodness. Sheldon Cooper Feb 2014 #47

Very sorry for your loss libodem Feb 2014 #49

OMG you have my prayers and condolences gopiscrap Feb 2014 #50

I am so sorry! hrmjustin Feb 2014 #51

So sorry, RedRocco. My condolences to you and your family. May he rest in peace. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #52

I am so sorry arthritisR_US Feb 2014 #53

My condolences - TBF Feb 2014 #54

I'm so sorry. Glorfindel Feb 2014 #55

Oh my Proud Liberal Dem Feb 2014 #56

So sorry for mercuryblues Feb 2014 #58

Very sorry for your loss berni_mccoy Feb 2014 #59

So sorry for your loss Bettie Feb 2014 #60

Ask for as much help as you need BrotherIvan Feb 2014 #61

Oh, no! I'm so sorry for your loss and that you had to experience finding him, RedRocco. ChisolmTrailDem Feb 2014 #62

I'm so sorry, Red Rocco. Sissyk Feb 2014 #63

So sorry :( polichick Feb 2014 #64

My deepest sympathies. CFLDem Feb 2014 #65

I am so sorry NikolaC Feb 2014 #66

Oh, I am so sorry! peace13 Feb 2014 #68

I am so very very sorry RedRocco. Mira Feb 2014 #69

I am so very, very sorry TDale313 Feb 2014 #71

Oh God, I'm so so sorry. Sarah Ibarruri Feb 2014 #73

My deepest sympathies. sheshe2 Feb 2014 #74

So sorry, RedRocco democrank Feb 2014 #75

So sorry for your loss. nt intheozone Feb 2014 #77

I am so sorry. Prayers and thought are with you. badtoworse Feb 2014 #78

Oh no Red! How tragic. I'm so sorry. AllyCat Feb 2014 #79

I am so sorry Mojorabbit Feb 2014 #80

I had 2 firetrucks, 4 cops, and EMT here RedRocco Feb 2014 #94

Yes, same here. It felt so surreal. Hug. nt Mojorabbit Feb 2014 #114

at least the cop that waited inside with me was young and unjaded n/t RedRocco Feb 2014 #120

so sorry RebeccaBeasley Feb 2014 #81

So sorry for your loss. UtahLib Feb 2014 #83

My condolences to you and your loved ones. GeorgeGist Feb 2014 #84

:-( meegbear Feb 2014 #85

I am so sorry for your loss. A hug to you. LoisB Feb 2014 #86

I am so sorry for your loss. Its a good thing you have someone with you though riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #87

I am so sorry question everything Feb 2014 #88

So very sorry for your loss... one_voice Feb 2014 #89

Oman. I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Feb 2014 #90

So sorry for your loss. MadrasT Feb 2014 #91

Very, very sorry to hear this. joeybee12 Feb 2014 #93

Sorry for your loss ... that must've been really awful ... I cannot imagine ... brett_jv Feb 2014 #95

COPD and high blood pressure RedRocco Feb 2014 #108

........ daleanime Feb 2014 #97

I'm so very sorry. sinkingfeeling Feb 2014 #99

Wishing you strength. JaneQPublic Feb 2014 #100

So sorry. Many condolences to you. Lost my dad last fall.... villager Feb 2014 #101

yeah, he was fine last night RedRocco Feb 2014 #109

On edit: Never mind my follow up question villager Feb 2014 #119

A sloppy joe sounds lovely. progressoid Feb 2014 #181

. Jesus Malverde Feb 2014 #102

OMG. I am so sorry! Triana Feb 2014 #103

So very sorry. Faygo Kid Feb 2014 #104

Please accept my condolences. malthaussen Feb 2014 #105

I'me very sorry for your loss. MinneapolisMatt Feb 2014 #106

So sorry for your loss. Nika Feb 2014 #110

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. KitSileya Feb 2014 #111

Oh my God, RedRocco! loudsue Feb 2014 #112

I'm so sorry RedRocco.. Viva_La_Revolution Feb 2014 #113

Im so sorry AgingAmerican Feb 2014 #115

leT me know what I can do to help Chaco Dundee Feb 2014 #116

oh i'm so sorry. barbtries Feb 2014 #117

so very sorry to hear this. reading some of the responses, you have gotten some excellent advice. niyad Feb 2014 #121

it really sucks that our parnets get old--so sorry for your loss dembotoz Feb 2014 #123

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. kairos12 Feb 2014 #124

Sorry to hear that mwrguy Feb 2014 #126

Sorry about this shock. I can only say that he was lucky to have you in his life. Take care of you. freshwest Feb 2014 #128

I am so sorry for your loss, and the shocking way magical thyme Feb 2014 #129

I'm saddened by your loss RedstDem Feb 2014 #130

May he rest in peace. William769 Feb 2014 #131

((so sorry)) handmade34 Feb 2014 #132

I am so sorry.... CherokeeDem Feb 2014 #133

Here's hoping... Rod Beauvex Feb 2014 #135

So sorry for your loss. Such a shock for you and your family. Sunlei Feb 2014 #136

My condolences. 840high Feb 2014 #137

I Had a Similar Experience mckara Feb 2014 #140

I am so sorry for your loss bigwillq Feb 2014 #141

That is so sad. TM99 Feb 2014 #142

When all is said and done.... N_E_1 for Tennis Feb 2014 #143

You have my sincere sympathy, RedRocco. another_liberal Feb 2014 #144

My son died almost 4 weeks ago lunatica Feb 2014 #145

I'm so sorry to read this Lunatica. adirondacker Feb 2014 #162

I lost my sis PasadenaTrudy Feb 2014 #186

I know what you mean lunatica Feb 2014 #279

oh god, lunatica. I am so sorry. I am so very sorry. :*( roguevalley Feb 2014 #171

Thank you so much for your words lunatica Feb 2014 #280

That's horrible Yo_Mama Feb 2014 #247

Good memories are my lifeline right now lunatica Feb 2014 #281

I' so sorry to hear this Rider3 Feb 2014 #146

So sorry RedRocco. Glimmer of Hope Feb 2014 #147

Sending condolences to you and your family. LibDemAlways Feb 2014 #148

So sorry ctsnowman Feb 2014 #149

My condolences, I'm so sorry nt MrScorpio Feb 2014 #150

So sorry for your loss. Worried senior Feb 2014 #151

I am so sorry get the red out Feb 2014 #152

I am sorry for your loss, RedRocco. gademocrat7 Feb 2014 #153

My deepest sympathy to you for your loss... virgdem Feb 2014 #154

My sympathies. Cleita Feb 2014 #155

That's awful, Rocco, I'm so sorry this has happened. sibelian Feb 2014 #156

I don't know what to say MynameisBlarney Feb 2014 #157

I'm really sorry it happened this way DFW Feb 2014 #158

I am so sad for you and your family. crim son Feb 2014 #159

That's heavy. WheelWalker Feb 2014 #160

I'm sorry for your loss. Third Doctor Feb 2014 #161

So sorry for your loss. B Calm Feb 2014 #163

My condolences. Be blessed RedRocco!! rury Feb 2014 #164

Very sorry for your loss Pakid Feb 2014 #165

My condolences. Blue_In_AK Feb 2014 #166

Damn, that's tough lillypaddle Feb 2014 #167

So Sorry for the way this went for you DreamSmoker Feb 2014 #168

So sorry for you. VA_Jill Feb 2014 #169

My mother fell down dead in front of me. I take it now as a privilege to be with roguevalley Feb 2014 #170

This is a great post, roguevalley, thank you for sharing your very tough story with the OP and anneboleyn Feb 2014 #217

May you and your family find peace Lebam in LA Feb 2014 #172

So sorry for your loss... Tom_Foolery Feb 2014 #173

Dear RedRocco PumpkinAle Feb 2014 #174

Damn, that never gets easy. Xyzse Feb 2014 #175

So sorry for your loss cate94 Feb 2014 #176

condolences to you and (((hug))) RainDog Feb 2014 #177

I am so sorry for your loss rbrnmw Feb 2014 #178

My sympathies. bravenak Feb 2014 #180

So sorry to hear that.... yuiyoshida Feb 2014 #182

Vibes to you and your family. (((Hugs))) too. applegrove Feb 2014 #183

... defacto7 Feb 2014 #184

{{{{{HUG}}}}} I hope you feel his warm life essence right there with you. He's there! DesertDiamond Feb 2014 #187

My condolences sakabatou Feb 2014 #188

I'm sorry for your loss n/t A Little Weird Feb 2014 #189

Sorry for your loss Harmony Blue Feb 2014 #191

Condolences ReRe Feb 2014 #192

I am so sorry RedRocco NEOhiodemocrat Feb 2014 #193

My sympathies to you. SaveOurDemocracy Feb 2014 #194

So sorry for you. Remember to be good to yourself over the next few days. n/t Egalitarian Thug Feb 2014 #195

I'm so sorry to hear this azurnoir Feb 2014 #196

Oh no... tavernier Feb 2014 #197

Much love: grahamhgreen Feb 2014 #198

so sorry for your loss steve2470 Feb 2014 #199

I'm so sorry, RedRocco. Chorophyll Feb 2014 #200

hugs nadinbrzezinski Feb 2014 #201

My Mom passed away last Spring... Not Me Feb 2014 #203

Better at home, hope he didn't suffer. Dustlawyer Feb 2014 #204

I'm so sorry. Chellee Feb 2014 #205

Im so sorry. ((hugs)) SummerSnow Feb 2014 #206

My condolences to you and family. westerebus Feb 2014 #207

Oh, I am so very sorry. knitter4democracy Feb 2014 #208

I'm so very sorry. SalmonChantedEvening Feb 2014 #210

condolences DonCoquixote Feb 2014 #212

So sorry....n/t radhika Feb 2014 #213

Wow... toddwv Feb 2014 #214

I am so very sorry you had to find him like that. liberalmuse Feb 2014 #215

Very sorry for your loss and your pain. I hope your family and friends can help support you anneboleyn Feb 2014 #216

There isn't a lot to say,but one of the reasons we thrive is to help when you need it DainBramaged Feb 2014 #218

I am so sorry for your loss, RR. Ilsa Feb 2014 #219

Bless your heart. Nobody can ever really be prepared for such a shock. IrishAyes Feb 2014 #220

My condolences to you and your family life long demo Feb 2014 #221

so sorry! n/t wildbilln864 Feb 2014 #222

I'm very sorry, RedRocco n/t Oilwellian Feb 2014 #223

Sorry for your loss. Denis 11 Feb 2014 #224

So very sad at your loss. RIP RedRocco's Dad! cntrygrl Feb 2014 #225

Condolences. Peace be unto you. nt kelliekat44 Feb 2014 #226

Words can't express how sorry I am. Lefta Dissenter Feb 2014 #227

I'm so sorry to hear this, RedRocco. All our love and sympathy to you and all your loved ones calimary Feb 2014 #228

That's a tough row to hoe... Uben Feb 2014 #230

I am so sorry, RedRocco. brer cat Feb 2014 #233

I'm so sorry! pacalo Feb 2014 #234

Peace to you MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #235

How difficult for you! phylny Feb 2014 #236

Condolences joesdaughter Feb 2014 #237

This message was self-deleted by its author Th1onein Feb 2014 #238

I'm so sorry Warpy Feb 2014 #240

Condolences denbot Feb 2014 #241

I offer my condolences, too. Lifelong Protester Feb 2014 #242

Good God, redrocco Dorian Gray Feb 2014 #243

So, so sorry Yo_Mama Feb 2014 #245

I am truly sorry for your loss... BeatleBoot Feb 2014 #246

I'm very sorry. A few thoughts about wht happens now. July Feb 2014 #248

I'm so sorry GigiMommy Feb 2014 #249

I know 2 people who found their parent just after they passed and neither was expected lunasun Feb 2014 #250

I am so sorry. diabeticman Feb 2014 #251

I'm so sorry. Aerows Feb 2014 #252

Condolences cantbeserious Feb 2014 #253

I'm so sorry for your loss. Jasana Feb 2014 #254

reI found my Dad dead this morning allan01 Feb 2014 #255

(((((((RedRocco))))))) WillyT Feb 2014 #256

What a very hard thing for you to have experienced. lexington filly Feb 2014 #257

I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences. highplainsdem Feb 2014 #258

........ Fearless Feb 2014 #259

My sincerest condolences. I am so sorry. Maraya1969 Feb 2014 #260

my condolences. DesertFlower Feb 2014 #261

Sorry man. mahina Feb 2014 #262

I'm so sorry for your loss. Joe Shlabotnik Feb 2014 #263

Sorry to hear that, Rocco. ='( AverageJoe90 Feb 2014 #264

You'll need his DD214 mahina Feb 2014 #265

How horrible for you. Remember the good times. They'll help get you through. juajen Feb 2014 #266

Wishing you strength and courage to face the days and months ahead. Surya Gayatri Feb 2014 #267

Warm thoughts, RedRocco. NT pablo_marmol Feb 2014 #268

I feel for you RedRocco. I'm thankful you were there for him. johnlucas Feb 2014 #269

Condolences to you and your family in your time of grief... Ghost in the Machine Feb 2014 #270

I am so, so sorry. colorado_ufo Feb 2014 #271

I am so sorry. TxDemChem Feb 2014 #272

I am so sorry. irisblue Feb 2014 #273

My heart goes out to you and your family emsimon33 Feb 2014 #274

sincerest condolences RoccoR5955 Feb 2014 #275

Please accept my deepest sympathies and sincere condolences, RedRocco. Octafish Feb 2014 #276

Whoa...(((RedRocco)))! Stellar Feb 2014 #278

My sympathies. I don't know what's worse: Expecting it or not expecting it. Eleanors38 Feb 2014 #282

I am so so sorry for your loss. :( cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #283

I want to thank you all RedRocco Feb 2014 #284