I'm The Duke University Freshman Porn Star And For The First Time I'm Telling The Story In My Words

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Good insights & explanation. Props for discussing and not just blowing off & dismissing anybody who has a problem with this...I am more enlightened, but have thoughts causing some cognitive dissonance on reading your post:

1. I think that fantasy often meshes with reality. Often.

2. I didn't say BDSM is about taking turns. I said "trust exercises" usually involve taking turns. So I don't see BDSM as simply a different kind of trust exercise. It's not that benign. It can easily go wrong. I don't buy that the one having the acts done on them is always the one in control. Maybe in the "nice" world, but there's the Not nice world...which I do think this type of porn feeds...some people take things literally and pattern themselves on aggressive behavior for wicked bad reasons. I think it's fair to say that male dominating female is still the more common scenario in porn, and that it is the more dangerous combination, the most socially sanctioned, and the one that can turn from fun to abuse very quickly. It is the thin line that gives the thrill obviously.

3. People who "enjoy the forcefulness," being slapped across the face --this is very hard to imagine, unless you like all forms of punishment which doesn't seem too healthy and certainly seems to stem from feelings of guilt or low self esteem. Usually it's the domain of the downtrodden or previously abused or neglected--there may be better ways of working that out than by just getting beaten over and over again.

4. And for those who enjoy hitting and humiliating people, maybe it would be more honorable to take up karate or some sport where you can get the pent-up aggressions out without humiliating and fostering a state of subjugation in the other? Not sure I buy that this is a good way for the dominator to learn self-control, ie. how to inflict less hurt rather then more hurt. As in karate, some people are not good students.

Thx for your honest reply.