I'm The Duke University Freshman Porn Star And For The First Time I'm Telling The Story In My Words

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273. No problem. Discussion is what it should be all about.

I don't enjoy talking past people. I get more than enough of that from family members.

With #2, it may seem that way because that's what you see on the bulk of adult sites out there since they're mostly your straight guys going to them to watch stuff. But you can't go by the big sites as a barometer of what's there because there's hundreds of thousands of adult sites out there and BDSM stuff tends to find itself there for the most part.

With #3, it's hard to imagine for a lot of people because it just seems wrong without having tried it. It may not seem healthy to people who haven't tried it or are inclined towards it. But we all have our preferences and it's been studied a lot about how so many different things can stimulate people. There are a good many people who have zero interest in adult toys and find that to be unnatural or have other issues with them. And that's not even going into the people that have the quasi-rape-fantasies out there, which I've experienced as well. That's a whole separate kettle of fish but it factors into that whole trust, safety and pleasure aspect that some people are simply wired towards.

#4 though, that's where the problem lies. The people involved are ~not~ humiliating anyone. If you're not into it, that's what it looks like. But for those involved, they're getting the sexual release that they crave and their partners are pleasuring them. I can't say that I got a serious sexual thrill about slapping her across the face, but I loved the way that I knew - and saw - just how much it gave her pleasure. It's not pent-up aggressions. It's intimacy. And that part is incredibly hard for a lot of people to understand because they see it as violence.

Which is where I go back to the whole D&D or comic book analogy where such fun games or activites were viewed by people as fostering violence and hate and murder or with the comics, turning our youth into criminals. That perception is not the reality and it's not an easy thing to figure out unless you actively try it or are involved in it.