Adam Lanza’s Father, in First Public Comments, Says ‘You Can’t Get Any More Evil’

[Ms. Toad]

185. 30+ years later,

It still haunts us.

One of the women was a distant relative, and a member of the same church. Our families have been bound tightly together in grief since then. We are blessed that they instantly recognized that both families lost their children that day - and the closest relatives of the second woman (who we never knew) feel the same way although we did not connect with them until 2 decades later when they returned to the state to work to stop my brother's execution.

But even with that unimaginable gift, which the family members of most murderers never receive, the guilt never goes away. My father did some work for the first family within the last few months. I doubt he expressed it to them - but he described that work to me as still repaying the tremendous debt they feel they owe them.