Adam Lanza’s Father, in First Public Comments, Says ‘You Can’t Get Any More Evil’

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206. Stay together for the sake of the children?

Do not divorce? That was the view in the 1950s. Trust me from growing up in a household like that, don't do your children that favor. I used to cry myself to sleep as a child WISHING they would get a divorce. At least my life would be peaceful. It was after I was 10 years old. That was when my father in a drunken rage had my mom on the floor and was strangling the life out of her and she was turning purple. I screamed at him to let her go. He didn't. I picked up a knife and put it in his back and told him if he didn't get off her, I would kill him. He got up, looked at me, and left. My Mom did not press charges because that would have meant involving me in the charges. This was in 1958.

They stayed together, but he never again laid a hand on my mother, or talked to her, or talked to me. In fact, I moved out at 17 and did not talk to him until he was on his deathbed when I was in my 40s. FORCE ME as an adult to talk to him? No way. He called me when he was in the hospital on his deathbed and asked me to come see him because he wanted to talk. He apologized to me for making my childhood, and my Mom's entire life, a living hell. He told me he was a very sick man and that he was going to his grave with that. Please forgive me, he asked. I forgave him, but I will never FORGET what he did.

You cannot make blanket statements about fathers and mothers should stay together and everything will be peachy keen. Until you are living in that household, you can never know what goes on behind closed doors. NOBODY in society, or even our family, knew my father almost killed my mother.

DIVORCE of my parents would have been PARADISE for me as a child.