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In reply to the discussion: Another adoptee commits suicide: Fashion designer L'Wren Scott,girlfriend of Mick Jagger, found dea [View all]Sen. Walter Sobchak
(8,692 posts)I don't think there was anything wrong with warning them as adults when they pressed the issue that this was no Romeo and Juliet story. Their mothers were criminals and they were seized by the State of California. But she was none the less supportive and shared everything she knew and had taken detailed notes of everything the social workers had told them as foster parents.
The original motivation was the woman believed she remembered an older sister taking care of her, she had no recollection of her birth mother. Her brother had no recollection of anything and indicated he didn't really care either way but went along for the ride.
What she found was her mother had been a hippie turned junkie who kept the company of bikers and was hit and killed panhandling in traffic in San Francisco several years after she had been seized in a police raid. Her father was alive and serving life for murdering the member of a rival gang. The sister she recalled did indeed exist but was not someone she was inclined to make contact with.
Her brother found his mother was in prison for armed robbery when he was adopted and subsequently went back to prison for non-fatally stabbing another woman and eventually disappeared from a motel in Oregon in the summer of 1992 after racking up a ton of drug and prostitution related charges and was believed to have been murdered, possibly by the "Green River Killer"
These revelations really didn't do wonders for their states of mind. Both are extremely successful, they become ill contemplating what might have become of them had the State of California not snatched them. One of them knows exactly how her sister turned out.