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(17,139 posts) Sat Mar 29, 2014, 10:09 AM Mar 2014

I went to look at kittehs. [View all]

I met two sweet kittehs who were pals and I sat down to fill out the paperwork. Then I just started crying and I couldn't stop. I apologized to the people there and left. I will send them a donation.
I couldn't apologize to the kittehs. I couldn't keep going. I just collapsed in some way.

Scat keeps hunting for Mousie every night. I wake up to her special cry. I get up and go hold her and we walk around the apartment. It seems to settle her down.
I know I did the right thing for Mousie but the what ifs are after me.
I'll just have to keep going.
Sorry for all the downer posts. I've lost pets before but this was especially hard.

Grits

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I went to look at kittehs. [View all] Are_grits_groceries Mar 2014 OP

. . . Le Taz Hot Mar 2014 #1

Oh, Grits, I know how you feel! -- I'm in the same situation. whathehell Mar 2014 #28

. Cooley Hurd Mar 2014 #2

Oh Grits, we do understand. antiquie Mar 2014 #3

Listen Grits malaise Mar 2014 #4

it's ok. you're still grieving... magical thyme Mar 2014 #5

You'll know when you're ready. Maybe a stray will adopt you. We have to fall in love all over again KittyWampus Mar 2014 #6

that grief is the honor you pay to your lost friend TheSarcastinator Mar 2014 #7

This was a truly beautiful, profound, and gentle thing to say. You have a way of healing hearts. colorado_ufo Mar 2014 #34

Welcome to DU, TheSarcastinator! calimary Mar 2014 #39

~ Raffi Ella Mar 2014 #47

Take your time. You did a good thing visiting the babies. Walk away Mar 2014 #8

It may be too soon... PasadenaTrudy Mar 2014 #9

I've said that 4 times and the last time took me 4 years to find my new best friend. mountain grammy Mar 2014 #21

Just a thought. Have you ever thought about getting a friend for your doggy? Maraya1969 Mar 2014 #75

No.. PasadenaTrudy Mar 2014 #77

Grits, im so sorry for your loss :( darkangel218 Mar 2014 #10

I agree. 12AngryBorneoWildmen Mar 2014 #16

((((((((((grits and scat))))))))))) we do understand. the grief is too new, still, too raw. when niyad Mar 2014 #11

Aww. When you're stronger, there's a new sweet kitteh (or two) in your future. Kahuna Mar 2014 #12

Sweetie, I have lost beloved kitties, too. Mine always live long lives, so tblue37 Mar 2014 #13

My experience exactly. Matariki Mar 2014 #36

Nice post. I've decided that when my buddy passes, I'm not going to wait like I did last time. Hoyt Mar 2014 #78

One thing I have noticed is that whenever I or my equally pet crazy sister loses a cat, tblue37 Mar 2014 #81

((((Grits))))) warrior1 Mar 2014 #14

My kit-cat mercuryblues Mar 2014 #15

Many of us have known that pain. 99Forever Mar 2014 #17

Our precious pets look to us for their daily needs, mountain grammy Mar 2014 #18

Guilt is a very normal part of grieving. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #19

Only one observation for you, grits Iwillnevergiveup Mar 2014 #20

+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2014 #69

Keep going to the shelter, but not with adoption in mind JayhawkSD Mar 2014 #22

Excellent advice. GoCubsGo Mar 2014 #55

We get it and it might be too soon to adopt nadinbrzezinski Mar 2014 #23

I think you've just learned that you need more time to grieve Mousie. Gormy Cuss Mar 2014 #24

This message was self-deleted by its author KoKo Mar 2014 #48

Oh Grits... CherokeeDem Mar 2014 #25

Sending love and hugs and tears. oldandhappy Mar 2014 #26

>^..^< tabbycat31 Mar 2014 #73

I (many of us) fully understand. Just let yourself grieve Greybnk48 Mar 2014 #27

Sometimes losing a pet is worse than losing a human. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #37

Give yourself time to grieve, and heal. AngryOldDem Mar 2014 #29

Time heals . . . another_liberal Mar 2014 #30

Hold on and give yourself time -Sweet Mousie memories to you and Scat lunasun Mar 2014 #31

Grits, enlightenment Mar 2014 #32

Our vets have told us... 3catwoman3 Mar 2014 #44

True, enlightenment Mar 2014 #52

I'm a peds nurse practitioner... 3catwoman3 Mar 2014 #60

I understand completely. enlightenment Mar 2014 #68

No need to apologize for talking out your feelings, ma'am. Give it some time. nt ChisolmTrailDem Mar 2014 #33

Hey there... Matariki Mar 2014 #35

Take your time, and only do what your heart can handle. colorado_ufo Mar 2014 #38

We're here for you, Grits. WinstonSmith4740 Mar 2014 #40

... TDale313 Mar 2014 #41

When my cat died, I was a mess; I couldn't go to work the following day. closeupready Mar 2014 #42

Mousie doesn't want you to feel so sad for so long Whisp Mar 2014 #43

Aw honey I am sorry. redwitch Mar 2014 #45

oh. my heart truly goes out to you, Grits. Raffi Ella Mar 2014 #46

Awww, grits libodem Mar 2014 #49

... Mnemosyne Mar 2014 #50

i believe in 'spares'. pansypoo53219 Mar 2014 #51

hugs, grits. BlancheSplanchnik Mar 2014 #53

I understand TuxedoKat Mar 2014 #54

((((((((((tuxedokat)))))) so very sorry for your loss, as well. we all know how much it hurts, niyad Mar 2014 #71

Oh Grits...you're just not ready yet. Give yourself more time. Triana Mar 2014 #56

Is it childish to feel such grief for an animal whose life is brief? Loudly Mar 2014 #57

Just a thought about new kittens.. KoKo Mar 2014 #58

It's always heartbreaking to lose them, that's for sure. Vinca Mar 2014 #59

It's just too soon Warpy Mar 2014 #61

I agree with Warpy. Scat needs a friend. Kingofalldems Mar 2014 #62

{{{hugs}}} shenmue Mar 2014 #63

It took me 9 months before I was ready to get new kittens after the GreenPartyVoter Mar 2014 #64

No need to apologize. brer cat Mar 2014 #65

If I were a cat I'd feel safe with you. nt rrneck Mar 2014 #66

Oh, damn� I'm sorry, grits... MrMickeysMom Mar 2014 #67

We lost one of ours 16 months ago. It can still be hard. politicat Mar 2014 #70

I lost my Tabby on 4/15/11 tabbycat31 Mar 2014 #72

It would be worse if it got easier with repetition, I think Demeter Mar 2014 #74

:( Voice for Peace Mar 2014 #76

Keep writing all you want to. Rex Mar 2014 #79

Might you call them and tell them to hold the kittehs for you for a couple of weeks? eridani Mar 2014 #80