Epic win for a three year old little boy who narrowly misses being lost to adoption!

[SheilaT]

144. You make a very important point which has been overlooked in this discussion.

Those parents adopted in good faith. They are not responsible for any deficiencies on the part of the agency. Nor are they in any way responsible for how the birth parents behaved. They are not the villains here. I do feel sorry for them. I can almost imagine adopting a child, thinking everything is all copacetic and then, Wham! Everything changes.

One of my adopted cousins wasn't actually adopted. She was apparently simply a foster child who wound up growing up with my aunt and uncle. I always knew that her legal surname was different from Aunt, Uncle, and her brother, also adopted. A few years ago I was speaking with the brother who said that apparently his sister -- I'll call her Ann -- had never really understood the situation. In adulthood her biological mother contacted her and created all sorts of turmoil and confusion. By the time of this conversation cousin Ann had died -- we are all now well over 60 -- and so I never found out her take on all this. Also, Aunt and Uncle are now many years gone. But I can say that the fact of my cousins being adopted was always completely open to us.