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Manifestor_of_Light

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8. Yep. Nobody told girls when we were young to NOT ACCEPT IT and stand up for ourselves.

Reply to redqueen (Original post)

Tue Apr 15, 2014, 06:36 PM

Apr 2014

Nobody told me to ditch negative boyfriends, assert myself, and such.

You were supposed to "coddle their fragile egos", don't beat them in sports, and so on.

Disgusting. The people who told me to coddle mens' egos were WOMEN, not men. My mother and grandmother, to be exact.

Perpetuating sexism. They acted like anything a man said, must be the truth. And I grew up in a supposedly liberal family.

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Report: Many girls view sexual assault as normal behavior [View all] redqueen Apr 2014 OP

Wow CFLDem Apr 2014 #1

It is shocking and aslo sadly unsurprising. redqueen Apr 2014 #2

one self kick redqueen Apr 2014 #3

I see your one self kick and raise it to two yuiyoshida Apr 2014 #13

"Girls believe the myth that men can�t help it." leftstreet Apr 2014 #4

Depressing indeed. redqueen Apr 2014 #6

K&R Solly Mack Apr 2014 #5

Not surprising at all. laundry_queen Apr 2014 #7

Same here, redqueen Apr 2014 #9

Yep. Nobody told girls when we were young to NOT ACCEPT IT and stand up for ourselves. Manifestor_of_Light Apr 2014 #8

This stuff is still practically invisible to most people. redqueen Apr 2014 #10

I tried to ignore it. Manifestor_of_Light Apr 2014 #11

I had a sales guy do the same at one of my first jobs. redqueen Apr 2014 #12

I have it when married men hit on me. They seem to have this feeling of entitlement. :puke: nt raccoon Apr 2014 #28

K&R JoeyT Apr 2014 #14

The first time I had to deal with harassment at school was in eighth grade. LeftyMom Apr 2014 #15

Oooh, that sounds familiar. KitSileya Apr 2014 #19

Well... Ohio Joe Apr 2014 #16

"Nobody should be surprised by the OP... redqueen Apr 2014 #25

I'm going to talk to my young teen daughter tonight and explicitly restate Arugula Latte Apr 2014 #17

That's so important to do. redqueen Apr 2014 #27

This.. one_voice Apr 2014 #18

I'm sorry that happened to you. KitSileya Apr 2014 #20

It is also to show us that we "have no right" to move freely in tblue37 Apr 2014 #22

Exactly. It is a part of male privilege that men do to create an advantage for themselves. KitSileya Apr 2014 #24

You should consider making this an OP! nt raccoon Apr 2014 #29

I admit that in this, KitSileya Apr 2014 #30

pretty much. nt TheFrenchRazor Apr 2014 #37

I have been through similar. Behind the Aegis Apr 2014 #21

you are correct; "cat calls" and such are meant to harass and intimidate, primarily. nt TheFrenchRazor Apr 2014 #36

Message auto-removed Name removed Apr 2014 #23

I am surprised that this story surprises other posters. merrily Apr 2014 #26

yep; i remember how anita hill was skewered for daring to speak the truth. nt TheFrenchRazor Apr 2014 #35

At 42 I am still shocked at times. Rex Apr 2014 #31

It's a crisis almost all over the world. redqueen Apr 2014 #32

I didn't really believe such opposition existed until I read all the links Rex Apr 2014 #33

absolutely true. kids need to be taught from a young age that this stuff is unacceptable, and TheFrenchRazor Apr 2014 #34

Serious consequences? redqueen Apr 2014 #38