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66. Don't you think having coping skills is a big part of it?

Wed Apr 16, 2014, 06:47 AM

Apr 2014

I note that as my husband gets older, he is less able to cope with even the littlest changes in his routine. It actually upsets him. I find myself doing even more than I already have taken on (he has had two spinal surgeries and I have had to take over some of the big jobs he used to help out with). But I do set parameters (out of respect for my sanity).

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Study: Men turn grumpy around the age of 70 [View all] Cali_Democrat Apr 2014 OP

Uh oh! NYC_SKP Apr 2014 #1

Young punk. Git offa my monitor. Jackpine Radical Apr 2014 #4

heh. yuiyoshida Apr 2014 #20

Funny GlobalVagabond Apr 2014 #78

That certainly would explain a lot, wouldn't it? pinboy3niner Apr 2014 #7

the lack of love for Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber :p steve2470 Apr 2014 #59

..... maddezmom Apr 2014 #14

Word BainsBane Apr 2014 #35

Hmph. Which dadgum kids did such a stupid study? (nt) Nye Bevan Apr 2014 #2

younger if they have rheumatoid arthritis otherone Apr 2014 #3

We're all grumpy if we have RA Warpy Apr 2014 #55

thanks for the reply warpy otherone Apr 2014 #65

Just stooping by to tell you congratulations. NCTraveler Apr 2014 #86

thank you kindly miss otherone Apr 2014 #88

Mine turned grumpy at 55. blueamy66 Apr 2014 #5

Yeah, wish mine had waited until 70. He started when he was about 55, and Nay Apr 2014 #38

I cannot wait to see just how much more grumpy he can get! blueamy66 Apr 2014 #64

Life get's easier after 50 larryjf Apr 2014 #6

For some of us, the 50s aren't all that great Art_from_Ark Apr 2014 #89

Not a bit surprising Warpy Apr 2014 #8

hubby is a grump and I tell him he is. I am cheerful and delightful... CTyankee Apr 2014 #9

Some mornings........ LongTomH Apr 2014 #10

Geesh...I'm ahead of the curve... joeybee12 Apr 2014 #11

Aw, stuff it, you moron. TheCowsCameHome Apr 2014 #12

Language is funny. Why "grumpy?" The researchers asked about depression and unhappiness. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2014 #13

Don't you think having coping skills is a big part of it? CTyankee Apr 2014 #66

I'm with you there, CT. Same happens here. He has no resilience whatsoever, which Nay Apr 2014 #70

One coping trick I can use in good weather is just to go outside for part of CTyankee Apr 2014 #71

Oh, yeah -- I go to the gym for a couple of hours every day for pool classes, and Nay Apr 2014 #72

Interesting solution! Populist_Prole Apr 2014 #81

ifyou do it enough, he might stop the constant comments. CTyankee Apr 2014 #83

Just wondering though Populist_Prole Apr 2014 #84

no, I think my husband is just used to driving while complaining or something...heh, heh... CTyankee Apr 2014 #85

Ahhh Interesting Populist_Prole Apr 2014 #87

Certainly having interests helps lumberjack_jeff Apr 2014 #74

women tend to have more social support networks than men, but I think it has to be CTyankee Apr 2014 #75

It's nice to be ahead of schedule for a change. nt rrneck Apr 2014 #15

Nope. What you just did was JimDandy Apr 2014 #52

Damn. If you sent me out to fuck up, I'd fuck up on the way... rrneck Apr 2014 #53

Ahead of my time as usual jberryhill Apr 2014 #16

My Dad is 70 bigwillq Apr 2014 #17

Make my day??? NO..... yuiyoshida Apr 2014 #18

DU misandry WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2014 #19

Cue Grumpy Cat voteearlyvoteoften Apr 2014 #21

How many of the grumps experienced life setbacks? Hoppy Apr 2014 #22

* Rozlee Apr 2014 #25

so sorry for your loss ! nt steve2470 Apr 2014 #60

Believe me, I understand derby378 Apr 2014 #77

Opposite for my husband. Rozlee Apr 2014 #23

... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2014 #24

Thank you, ScreamingMeemie. Rozlee Apr 2014 #26

.... seabeyond Apr 2014 #27

Thank you, seabeyond. Rozlee Apr 2014 #30

I think my husband is a middle-aged prodigy. Chemisse Apr 2014 #28

Ones brain can only absorb so much bullshit in life, by 70 it overflows into grumpiness! n/t RKP5637 Apr 2014 #29

At age 72, I'm actually a lot less grumpy than I was 20 years ago tularetom Apr 2014 #31

You rock. I'm very happy for you! lovemydog Apr 2014 #47

excellent attitude ! nt steve2470 Apr 2014 #61

I am 58 and I am very grumpy. geckosfeet Apr 2014 #32

Me too.... Historic NY Apr 2014 #54

I'm ahead of the curve! Warren DeMontague Apr 2014 #33

Only 50, but I must be mature for my age.... Marshall III Apr 2014 #34

I'm almost 60 and I have never been grumpy one goddamn day in my life and Douglas Carpenter Apr 2014 #36

Haha, nice! lovemydog Apr 2014 #50

How come I wasn't asked about this? idendoit Apr 2014 #37

I've got 14 years of happiness left then. Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2014 #39

Republicans RobertEarl Apr 2014 #40

I'm less than 1/2 that age, Jamaal510 Apr 2014 #41

Trust me, getting married won't fix the "broke" part Fumesucker Apr 2014 #43

I wonder where the study is that determines Jenoch Apr 2014 #42

Sad to say my mom did in her later years Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2014 #44

My mother died a little over 6 years ago. Jenoch Apr 2014 #45

My mother died at age 94, having successfully and somewhat painlessly starved herself CTyankee Apr 2014 #69

my dad only got sweeter with age. OUTLIER! :D roguevalley Apr 2014 #46

Not me Packerowner740 Apr 2014 #48

I know this is true! I live with a GRUMPY ol' man. LibGranny Apr 2014 #49

Next time the Stones do a concert listen for Jagger singing dflprincess Apr 2014 #51

Maybe we can get Grampy McSame to sing that Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2014 #82

Interestingly, that statistic correlates with Fox News-watching habits. Arugula Latte Apr 2014 #56

After 70, you don't have to please others -- you can be "candid" FarCenter Apr 2014 #57

I think the tendency to be more candid is a big factor steve2470 Apr 2014 #63

When my mom retired in her 60s she said that she was no longer going to hold her feelings in and seaglass Apr 2014 #68

Quiet and Shy HockeyMom Apr 2014 #79

Yes and why shouldn't you be yourself. It's a lot of work being someone you are not and stuffing seaglass Apr 2014 #80

That was certainly a long study but... Jasana Apr 2014 #58

In my observation people get nicer as they get older treestar Apr 2014 #62

Yes, the shadow of the Grim Reaper tends to make many people nicer. nt raccoon Apr 2014 #67

Me, grumpy? pinboy3niner Apr 2014 #73

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