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Populist_Prole

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81. Interesting solution!

Thu Apr 17, 2014, 12:48 PM

Apr 2014

"I know what you mean about the driving thing. I handle this by agreeing with his complaints and going one better...I really let loose. He doesn't like it but since I am agreeing with him (loudly) he can't really complain so he stops complaining! Kinda silly, I know, but ya do what ya gotta do!"

Very interesting also in how you describe his reactions to it. You say "he doesn't like it". Is that because he actually seeked out an argument, was picking a fight, and didn't get one? Or that he knows you're trying to diffuse him?

I ask that because I think I unwittingly used that method to diffuse my mid-70's father when he's always baiting me into arguments, mostly political. I'll either "fog" the argument by responding vaguely enough to where he thinks I'm just dispassionately agreeing with him, or I'll fake one-upping him in agreement. It does diffuse things but I suspect he realizes I'm just trying to deprive him of "winning" an argument.

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Study: Men turn grumpy around the age of 70 [View all] Cali_Democrat Apr 2014 OP

Uh oh! NYC_SKP Apr 2014 #1

Young punk. Git offa my monitor. Jackpine Radical Apr 2014 #4

heh. yuiyoshida Apr 2014 #20

Funny GlobalVagabond Apr 2014 #78

That certainly would explain a lot, wouldn't it? pinboy3niner Apr 2014 #7

the lack of love for Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber :p steve2470 Apr 2014 #59

..... maddezmom Apr 2014 #14

Word BainsBane Apr 2014 #35

Hmph. Which dadgum kids did such a stupid study? (nt) Nye Bevan Apr 2014 #2

younger if they have rheumatoid arthritis otherone Apr 2014 #3

We're all grumpy if we have RA Warpy Apr 2014 #55

thanks for the reply warpy otherone Apr 2014 #65

Just stooping by to tell you congratulations. NCTraveler Apr 2014 #86

thank you kindly miss otherone Apr 2014 #88

Mine turned grumpy at 55. blueamy66 Apr 2014 #5

Yeah, wish mine had waited until 70. He started when he was about 55, and Nay Apr 2014 #38

I cannot wait to see just how much more grumpy he can get! blueamy66 Apr 2014 #64

Life get's easier after 50 larryjf Apr 2014 #6

For some of us, the 50s aren't all that great Art_from_Ark Apr 2014 #89

Not a bit surprising Warpy Apr 2014 #8

hubby is a grump and I tell him he is. I am cheerful and delightful... CTyankee Apr 2014 #9

Some mornings........ LongTomH Apr 2014 #10

Geesh...I'm ahead of the curve... joeybee12 Apr 2014 #11

Aw, stuff it, you moron. TheCowsCameHome Apr 2014 #12

Language is funny. Why "grumpy?" The researchers asked about depression and unhappiness. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2014 #13

Don't you think having coping skills is a big part of it? CTyankee Apr 2014 #66

I'm with you there, CT. Same happens here. He has no resilience whatsoever, which Nay Apr 2014 #70

One coping trick I can use in good weather is just to go outside for part of CTyankee Apr 2014 #71

Oh, yeah -- I go to the gym for a couple of hours every day for pool classes, and Nay Apr 2014 #72

Interesting solution! Populist_Prole Apr 2014 #81

ifyou do it enough, he might stop the constant comments. CTyankee Apr 2014 #83

Just wondering though Populist_Prole Apr 2014 #84

no, I think my husband is just used to driving while complaining or something...heh, heh... CTyankee Apr 2014 #85

Ahhh Interesting Populist_Prole Apr 2014 #87

Certainly having interests helps lumberjack_jeff Apr 2014 #74

women tend to have more social support networks than men, but I think it has to be CTyankee Apr 2014 #75

It's nice to be ahead of schedule for a change. nt rrneck Apr 2014 #15

Nope. What you just did was JimDandy Apr 2014 #52

Damn. If you sent me out to fuck up, I'd fuck up on the way... rrneck Apr 2014 #53

Ahead of my time as usual jberryhill Apr 2014 #16

My Dad is 70 bigwillq Apr 2014 #17

Make my day??? NO..... yuiyoshida Apr 2014 #18

DU misandry WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2014 #19

Cue Grumpy Cat voteearlyvoteoften Apr 2014 #21

How many of the grumps experienced life setbacks? Hoppy Apr 2014 #22

* Rozlee Apr 2014 #25

so sorry for your loss ! nt steve2470 Apr 2014 #60

Believe me, I understand derby378 Apr 2014 #77

Opposite for my husband. Rozlee Apr 2014 #23

... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2014 #24

Thank you, ScreamingMeemie. Rozlee Apr 2014 #26

.... seabeyond Apr 2014 #27

Thank you, seabeyond. Rozlee Apr 2014 #30

I think my husband is a middle-aged prodigy. Chemisse Apr 2014 #28

Ones brain can only absorb so much bullshit in life, by 70 it overflows into grumpiness! n/t RKP5637 Apr 2014 #29

At age 72, I'm actually a lot less grumpy than I was 20 years ago tularetom Apr 2014 #31

You rock. I'm very happy for you! lovemydog Apr 2014 #47

excellent attitude ! nt steve2470 Apr 2014 #61

I am 58 and I am very grumpy. geckosfeet Apr 2014 #32

Me too.... Historic NY Apr 2014 #54

I'm ahead of the curve! Warren DeMontague Apr 2014 #33

Only 50, but I must be mature for my age.... Marshall III Apr 2014 #34

I'm almost 60 and I have never been grumpy one goddamn day in my life and Douglas Carpenter Apr 2014 #36

Haha, nice! lovemydog Apr 2014 #50

How come I wasn't asked about this? idendoit Apr 2014 #37

I've got 14 years of happiness left then. Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2014 #39

Republicans RobertEarl Apr 2014 #40

I'm less than 1/2 that age, Jamaal510 Apr 2014 #41

Trust me, getting married won't fix the "broke" part Fumesucker Apr 2014 #43

I wonder where the study is that determines Jenoch Apr 2014 #42

Sad to say my mom did in her later years Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2014 #44

My mother died a little over 6 years ago. Jenoch Apr 2014 #45

My mother died at age 94, having successfully and somewhat painlessly starved herself CTyankee Apr 2014 #69

my dad only got sweeter with age. OUTLIER! :D roguevalley Apr 2014 #46

Not me Packerowner740 Apr 2014 #48

I know this is true! I live with a GRUMPY ol' man. LibGranny Apr 2014 #49

Next time the Stones do a concert listen for Jagger singing dflprincess Apr 2014 #51

Maybe we can get Grampy McSame to sing that Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2014 #82

Interestingly, that statistic correlates with Fox News-watching habits. Arugula Latte Apr 2014 #56

After 70, you don't have to please others -- you can be "candid" FarCenter Apr 2014 #57

I think the tendency to be more candid is a big factor steve2470 Apr 2014 #63

When my mom retired in her 60s she said that she was no longer going to hold her feelings in and seaglass Apr 2014 #68

Quiet and Shy HockeyMom Apr 2014 #79

Yes and why shouldn't you be yourself. It's a lot of work being someone you are not and stuffing seaglass Apr 2014 #80

That was certainly a long study but... Jasana Apr 2014 #58

In my observation people get nicer as they get older treestar Apr 2014 #62

Yes, the shadow of the Grim Reaper tends to make many people nicer. nt raccoon Apr 2014 #67

Me, grumpy? pinboy3niner Apr 2014 #73

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