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Response to Brigid (Reply #79)

Mon Apr 21, 2014, 09:02 AM

80. Pretty ugly situation that would require that, for sure.

I guess the whole thing for me is that whether or not a couple has sex at some particular time just doesn't seem like an earth-shaking issue. Or it shouldn't, in my opinion. Sex is or should be enjoyable, exciting, passionate, and equally desired by both parties, it seems to me. I can't imagine much enjoyment or any of those other things if the situation is tense, argumentative, or whiny. That just isn't much of a turn-on for me.

"I don't want to do this," said in any way at all or expressed in any way isn't the end of the world. The only reasonable answer is "OK. No problem. Let's do something else." None of us is compelled to continue moving toward an unwanted goal. We can all change directions and find something else to do. Sex is a voluntary activity, and should be voluntary and wanted by both people.

That's my opinion.

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LineLineNew Reply Pretty ugly situation that would require that, for sure.
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