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78. Back when I was in the Navy I had a lot of girls overseas proposing to me.

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If It�s OK For Women To Propose, Why Don�t They? [View all] The Straight Story May 2014 OP

There are a lot of stupid traditions and stereotypes we have left to overcome. Oakenshield May 2014 #1

Marriage is one of them...nt Jesus Malverde May 2014 #6

+1 Major Nikon May 2014 #9

+1 million Louisiana1976 May 2014 #27

And I bet you don't have a happy marriage. joeglow3 May 2014 #34

You make many assumptions Jesus Malverde May 2014 #39

Not an assumption. joeglow3 May 2014 #87

Your a gambler...eh? Jesus Malverde May 2014 #89

It has to do with the engagement ring yeoman6987 May 2014 #79

They would have to buy their own diamond engagement ring oneofthe99 May 2014 #2

The whole diamond engagement ring started as a marketing ploy for Debeers alarimer May 2014 #88

They do. Flying Squirrel May 2014 #3

Subtle Hints Like Becoming "Accidently" Pregnant left on green only May 2014 #4

Well... Flying Squirrel May 2014 #5

Or making wedding plans JVS May 2014 #11

Not necessarily although that usually works malaise May 2014 #12

Yes, that's the way women propose etherealtruth May 2014 #21

Well that was insulting theHandpuppet May 2014 #28

Why was it insulting? malaise May 2014 #33

Of course lots of women deliberately get pregnant. boston bean May 2014 #46

Many do n/t malaise May 2014 #48

Many do what? I made a few statements. boston bean May 2014 #49

Many women deliberately get pregnant to get their boyfriends to marry them malaise May 2014 #52

If a man does not want to be a husband or a father, he has choices as well. boston bean May 2014 #53

Oh? Would you say the same to women who get pregnant and want an abortion? The Straight Story May 2014 #57

No, I would not. boston bean May 2014 #77

The difference is, paying child support doesn't carry the risk of death or permanent damage. moriah May 2014 #93

This message was self-deleted by its author davidn3600 May 2014 #64

What century are you in? BainsBane May 2014 #94

What constitutes "many" in your eyes? Gravitycollapse May 2014 #55

Not sure what they see as many, but around here The Straight Story May 2014 #66

Ah, yes UtahLib May 2014 #35

It's all the hussies fault, can't you see! <sarcasm> boston bean May 2014 #47

Yeah, she made him do it. (sarcasm) nt UtahLib May 2014 #50

Yeah, women propose by entrapment theHandpuppet May 2014 #59

And Eve stuffed that apple down innocent little Adam's protesting throat. UtahLib May 2014 #62

Not funny or even accurate. This kind of passive aggressive anti-womanism has no place on DU. Gravitycollapse May 2014 #38

The post that will spawn a thousand posts. Damansarajaya May 2014 #83

"Dude, just don't go there . . . especially here." less than a month and you are so familiar with du seabeyond May 2014 #92

I'm saying DON'T jump into the gender battles. Damansarajaya May 2014 #96

One of my friends' had a GF who took a job and moved 500 miles to follow him to where he was going.. JVS May 2014 #15

This post is a stupid stereotype of women and doesn't belong on DU. Gravitycollapse May 2014 #37

Really? Flying Squirrel May 2014 #60

So you use your one personal experience to say a "significant" percentage of women do it. Gravitycollapse May 2014 #63

Well I must say I understand your remarks here....but The Straight Story May 2014 #65

I really think you need to re-read everything that was actually said Flying Squirrel May 2014 #70

both directly referring to the same thing, appear to be at odds with one another... LanternWaste May 2014 #98

Not really, especially here on DU - it works well The Straight Story May 2014 #100

Two different things. Reading comprehension is clearly a problem here. Flying Squirrel May 2014 #101

Not in this town. Women want the baby, but they don't feel they need the man. DebJ May 2014 #67

It would be awkward and weird... 951-Riverside May 2014 #7

This thread would need a lot of popcorn if people felt comfortable speaking openly on the topic. JVS May 2014 #8

I remember back when my first wife and I were going out The Straight Story May 2014 #13

Ahh, you nutty head-in-the-clouds romantic... Arugula Latte May 2014 #84

Thumbs up for honest discussion. Puzzledtraveller May 2014 #44

Just like men pay for the date and women take the man's name davidn3600 May 2014 #10

except for the ring, I don't know a single person who followed any of those traditions, LOL. bettyellen May 2014 #20

You dont know a single woman who changed her last name after getting married? davidn3600 May 2014 #22

oh hells no, they all work and would like to keep their good names. One friend hyphenates.... the bettyellen May 2014 #23

I will say, one who proposed (and proposed and explained what good marriages were like and proposed bettyellen May 2014 #24

According to this writer in the Guardian, 90% of women change their surnames davidn3600 May 2014 #30

I am 45 and do not know a single woman yeoman6987 May 2014 #80

I actually took a lot of guff for taking my husband's name when we married. WillowTree May 2014 #86

you are right; women who consider themselves to be very "liberated," for lack of a better TheFrenchRazor May 2014 #74

I proposed to my Husband.. HipChick May 2014 #14

I proposed to my husband. Habibi May 2014 #16

We just decided to get married- no proposal involved. canoeist52 May 2014 #17

Jinx!!! Habibi May 2014 #18

Yep canoeist52 May 2014 #19

Because they're told from the time they're babies wickerwoman May 2014 #25

I would say that that is a keen observation (nt) The Straight Story May 2014 #26

And the current under-30 crowd has grown up under regressive gender stereotypes. intheflow May 2014 #32

Historically, Disney is possibly the biggest offender of this davidn3600 May 2014 #40

Yes, but it could be somewhat excused pre-1960s America intheflow May 2014 #45

this is nothing new; unfortunately every generation of young women goes through the same progression TheFrenchRazor May 2014 #75

And it's so hard to fight. Codeine May 2014 #85

I don't buy it hfojvt May 2014 #41

What an amazing insight wickerwoman May 2014 #56

Nailed it treestar May 2014 #54

So they can say you are the one that begged me to marry you n/t doc03 May 2014 #29

With me, there was no formal proposal. MadrasT May 2014 #31

Donna proposed to me. hobbit709 May 2014 #36

People like to have their cake and eat it too. Puzzledtraveller May 2014 #42

hypothetically relationships can be free of gender roles norms La Lioness Priyanka May 2014 #43

Neither one should propose Courtesy Flush May 2014 #51

Good point! n/t DebJ May 2014 #68

Tradionately, marriage is something Go Vols May 2014 #58

Men decide to propose about half the time, in my opinion. pnwmom May 2014 #61

Weddings seem to be one of those things completely drenched in tradition. n/t DebJ May 2014 #69

Why women will never propose to men davidn3600 May 2014 #71

I did. Married 2x, proposed to my first cali May 2014 #72

"Let's get married", I said HockeyMom May 2014 #76

the reality is that straight men and women are very attached to their gender roles; it doesn't TheFrenchRazor May 2014 #73

Back when I was in the Navy I had a lot of girls overseas proposing to me. B Calm May 2014 #78

They do. MineralMan May 2014 #81

Oh God where is the romance? trublu992 May 2014 #82

Your post's last two sentences answer your question. WinkyDink May 2014 #90

Because... LWolf May 2014 #91

i proposed to my husband Scout May 2014 #95

Because they like the tradition of man asking woman MO_Moderate May 2014 #97

LOL! I could have a field day with this one; but it would get real ugly down the road. nt Zorra May 2014 #99