Women

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54. In all my years of life, I've never known anyone to do this. But consider this:

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We are blessed to live in a culture where we can be sexual without being committed. HOWEVER, with this blessing come risks.

A woman is always aware that she can get pregnant by mistake. She accepts the possibility that a certain amount of her fate might not be in her hands. If she does get pregnant, she may want an abortion and the man might be against that, and she might consequently need to fight for her rights. She may want to raise the child with the man, and he might disappear. She might want to raise the child without the man, and he may insist on being part of her life forever after.

Men often seem to think they are immune from these risks. We have a lot of threads here that say that a man has equal rights to the child, a man should be able to be in the birthing room against the mother's wishes, a man's wishes are paramount.

Here's what those men need to get: If they choose to have sex with a woman to whom they are not committed, they are taking a risk that things might not go exactly as they want them to. A certain amount of their fate is no longer in their hands.

A man needs to take responsibility for his own fertility just like we always tell women to do. If a man doesn't want to be "tricked" into marriage, he needs to grow up and get himself a vasectomy or roll on that condom and roll the dice. If he doesn't want the child, he needs to prevent the conception of the child. Just like women have always needed to do.

And before the usual suspects accuse me of prudery, this has nothing to do with that. This has to do with the obvious biological consequences of having sex outside of a committed relationship.